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  2. jadbaz

    Canon/OC and Inbetween!

    Hello Miss Dinosaur! Why don't you come on over and check out Sinsomnia! We are an Anita Blake Based Website but you don't need to have read the books as our powerbooks provide any of the lore you may need to know! We are a 3/3/3/ rated site for 18+ only and coming up to our third year of being open! Right now we are a smaller community but are working on branching out and you look like you're fun! There are several species available for grabs including vampires, werewolves, wereleopards, werelions, shifters and more! If you have any questions don't hesitate to ask us theres nearly always someone around!
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  4. I can't really disagree with anything that has been said before. What I will add is that anyone showing a staff member disrespect is a bad thing for people to see on your site; but it's also the fact they feel able to *get away with it* - again, probably not an attitude you want to encourage. Remember it's important for you to think about this; you are still a member and a person and you are entitled to the same respect and courtesy you show to everyone else. When in doubt about it being a **directed at Staff** switch it around and remember this; would you have the same hesitation if they were displaying this attitude and behaviour toward a member. Often we as staff take on more abuse/rudeness because we feel we should. It can be hard to say goodbye to someone who've you have gotten along with before. But ultimately in these situations you stand to lose more by doing nothing, as your members become concerned about both your dedication and also their own safety to play in this kind of negative environment. Generally, by this time most of your members are aware of these issues and are waiting for you to respond. All in all I hope this helps, and remember sometimes you have to do a hard thing in order to get some positives out of what has become a challenging situation.
  5. Seraphim

    Disenthral

    The activity is amazing, and the environment is both positive and unique. You should check it out!!
  6. I go with the ol' "collaborative writing". If the asker is familiar with DnD or other desktop rpgs, I generally talk about forum rping in terms of 'it's like DnD, except written down and there's usually less math'.
  7. Eleutherian

    Into the frying pan

    Hey Keaton! I thought I'd take a chance and let you know about our site, Eleutheria! Eleutheria is a Classical Greek Historically accurate site that is set in the year 404BC just after the end of the Peloponnesian war. We are an intermediate/advanced site that is inclusive to all writers with no word count. Just a love of the story and the freedom to write what we want! Our global plots are not fixed, nor does any set of characters control them so your characters can influence the world and people around them. We understand that Historical sites can be intimidating. Many people aren't sure where to begin when it comes to the lore. Rest assured, we've done all the research for you! All of our lore is housed on site so everything you need to write a character is already there. But since we are historically accurate, you are welcome to research yourself if you'd like to expand your frame of reference. I see that your preference is for Medieval Magic, Historical and Supernatural. While we aren't medieval, we do offer the option to play characters from the Greek Pantheon, as well as Demi-Gods, Oracles and events where members are able to test their might and abilities against fabled Greek creatures! We'd love a chance to chat and maybe entice you into looking deeper into our site! You can contact me here, or on my discord at Seraphina#4890. Hope to see you soon! Eleutheria Home | Lore | Site Canons | Advertising | Want ads
  8. I am absolutely in agreement with everyone that says ban the ones causing problems. If their friends leave too, so be it, and if they cause problems, ban them too, because you do not want that continuing drama. I had a sort of similar issue in that things went south with a member I thought was a friend, it just accelerated from there to that same point where I felt a bit ill about the drama and my own board. Tried to work things out to no avail. Banning was the best thing for my mental health and definitely the best thing for the board, despite losing a couple members. The whole atmosphere of the board and the discord was greatly improved after that for everyone. Trust me, other people will pick up on the tension too and it will just be harmful to you and your site. Anonymous poster hash: a35e6...977
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  10. I agree with everyone else. Ban them. It is your site and your space. Now is the time to protect that now, more than ever. I don't even allow those types of behavior to surface on the sites I admin because I had bad experiences in the past after giving chance after chance and being way too passive about taking actions (this was in my early admin years). I have also been on the flip side, where there were toxic members that weren't banned and literally killed a site that had a lot of potential. The admin mistakingly gave them way too much power, ignored members concerns, and allowed the site to completely change. Toxic people, create toxic environments. I am sure you don't want your site to become that, so see this as protecting your own mental health and site. You should not dread coming on your own site.
  11. I really enjoy plotting and character development, and I may enjoy that more than the actual process of writing in general, but writing's the biggest draw for roleplaying. I do minimal plotting with play-by-post RPGs, and I greatly prefer it that way. The off-the-cuff approach, with a ton of surprises coming from other players-- that's the whole point of the hobby, for me! I enjoy the actual writing as a creative exercise and as a means of advancing the story to find out what happens next. I like enjoying the way the words come together and figuring out how to present information and ideas to give my writing partners fun things to work with. Plotting with other people in RPGs always seems to be more of a hindrance than a help, especially when it kills the element of the unknown and/or takes us far beyond what we'll ever actually accomplish with the story. With all of that said, if I was presented with the choice between a job as a development executive or a TV writer, it would be a hard pick! I might pick the writer option, just knowing that a huge portion of that job is sitting in a room with other writers breaking episodes and season arcs. 😉 My plotting stays pretty limited to making sure I have a bunch of plot twist rabbits to pull out of my hat along the way.
  12. I can't seem to post the link to my profile in the Discord Account Verification. So I'm stuck in limbo. 

  13. Yes, we have a thread on the site with musical dedications. Youtube is favoured.
  14. Yeah, they're super pissed I have anything in common. They listed out a bunch of stuff they want me to change and most of it is either 1) something I came up with myself for the original app 2) something that is the same base concept but has all the details changed. They claim to have found our original conversation where they agreed to let me use "a loose basis" but continued on to say that that doesn't mean I can have the same name, playby, abilities, age, any same elements of history, or even that he can have a sibling as he originally did despite a completely different dynamic and history between them. They also called me a backstabber among other unpleasant things so I've blocked them and have no intention of ever speaking with them again. I would have been happy to discuss in detail the way I changed things or tried to come to a better middle ground, had they been a rational person about things, but I most certainly am not going to sit there and let someone fling insults and false accusations at me.
  15. I've run into this before. I just told them straight up, this is my character that I made and put the effort into, and you have no say about what I do with them now. End of discussion. And yes, I do still play the character that wanted ad spawned years later. To be frank about it, I don't think you even should've had that first discussion with them, because I don't believe a character belongs to someone other than the person that plays them, even if they were a wanted. Unless you're taking an adoptable, chances are, you did all the legwork for that character, and that character is thus yours. Period. Could you perhaps be stealing the shared plot? Maybe. The character itself? Lol somebody be trippin'.
  16. How can you steal a character you created? Am I missing something? Is it because there are elements from a shared history from a past site? Which are still part of the character you wrote, and their history, not something you took from them, whether you created the character for a want ad or not. Color me confused. I didn't know you could steal from yourself lol
  17. The original terms were in DMs on Discord. We're not friends and since then I'd closed the message but I may ask them to send me a request so I can screenshot for future reference. I like that "Ideas are a dime a dozen, but our sanity is limited", it's quite true. I haven't chosen a site yet, just have a search up, so I don't think it's that. I'm also not 100% sure what terms we parted on, we were fine personally at the time as far as I knew but it's little secret that I'm not fond of a co-admin of theirs and their message seemed to have an aggressive/accusatory tone to my eyes (though they did essentially accuse me of stealing their wanted character out of the blue so I'm not going to say I'm wholly unbiased). You may be right in that they're having trouble adjusting, I suppose I'll have to wait and see what they say.
  18. I'm also of the less possessive persuasion. I don't put a lot of terms on my Wanted ads because my main goal is to have tie-ins to my characters and see what happens from there. The initial idea might have been mine, but the execution has typically gone farther than I would ever see appropriate to take credit for. If someone's so inspired by one of those roles that they want to recreate the character? Nice! I've had people change the terms on me later on for various things and pretend it was always that way, and that is a surefire way to ruin a good time. If you can, you might want to pull up the original terms just in case either of you have forgotten stated terms, quote it, and (if all is as you remember it) ask if they want to renegotiate the terms. Ideas are a dime a dozen, but our sanity is limited. That said, I know some people tend to stick to a strict roster of reused characters for life - it could be that they've built up some unstated expectations or are otherwise having trouble adjusting. Alternatively, they might be thinking of joining the site and having an 'awkward' moment seeing that one of their character's Wanted slots is already filled, which sounds like a missed opportunity to me if you guys parted on good terms.
  19. Being a long time member of Infidelis, I can safely claim that this site is amazing. With an engaging plot that includes everyone, and a welcoming community that are always happy to thread with you. I love just talking to everyone, and there is such an abundance of amazing writers too! I love the contests and fun challenges they create, with cute prizes and interesting ideas. 10/10 would recommend.
  20. A while ago I contacted an old writing partner asking if I could re-use a character I'd made for one of their wanted ads. They agreed on the condition that I only used a vague outline of the character's history instead of copying any details. I apped the character on two other sites, never heard a word from my ex-partner, but both sites died in their turns. So I recently put up a site search thread on another directory where I outlined the character's background in a couple sentences to give anyone viewing the search an idea of the character I wanted to play. I'm using the same first name and playby from the original wanted, and my own personality, abilities, and middle and last names. I've kept only three relatively vague elements of his entire history from the original ad, each common ones that I've changed the details of, and made several major changes which were mentioned in my site search. However, my old writing partner messaged me claiming I was writing an exact copy of the character they'd requested. I replied to their message pointing out the changes I made and how there was very little I kept the same as the character they requested, besides what I'd come up with. They haven't yet replied but I'm expecting them to still be pissed at me and try to make trouble for me for copying the character. I'm not sure how to approach this situation further. I've let people reuse characters they made for me with zero changes, so I'm assuming I'm coming at this from a different viewpoint than my ex partner. I'm also concerned that they'll try to stir up drama with staff on whatever site I join by attempting to label me a thief. Suggestions? Is it considered normal or reasonable for someone to change the conditions of me writing a former wanted character months down the line? I've never dealt with this level of... possessiveness, I supposed it is, over reusing characters and I'm at something of a loss as to how to proceed.
  21. I agree with everyone. Ban the problem members and their friends as well.
  22. Fully agreed with what's already been said here: Ban the member in question, and if their friends start stirring shit, ban them, too. I know many of us who admin sites hate to lose any members, but these people are not benefiting your site. No degree of activity or writing prowess can make up for being an asshole. Furthermore, your window hasn't closed. You're the admin; your window is open indefinitely. I understand where you're coming from with regards to feeling nothing that's been done recently is ban-worthy -- If you're trying to run a balanced game, fairness is important. But you're also allowed the benefit of time to further assess the situation. Even if they weren't icing you out and coming off rude to you now, it's still your prerogative to change your mind after further consideration. As was said, it's your site. This is supposed to be fun, and you put in too much time and effort as an admin to be bullied in your own space. It's better to have 5 players who are respectful and kind than 50 who are dicks. The bad seeds will just bring the whole thing down, and if they don't like it, they can create their own game.
  23. I'm a relatively new Admin, that said I've still had to ban people. If a member that I addressed with a problem in their communication styles started cussing me out; I would kick them. It's not because the're not eligible to their own opinion; but there are rules of common courtesy that I expect to be observed between human beings. If they are unwilling to observe those rules they can go foster drama and discomfort on their own board and not one that I poured my blood, sweat and tears into making.
  24. Yep. Kick them. They've been rude to you and are continuing to be rude to you. It's not going to get better, even though it's a hard decision to make and a harder thing to do. But look at it this way. If you had friends over to your home for dinner and they started making you uncomfortable, you wouldn't go to McDonald's for a burger and wait for them to leave. You'd show them the door. Your site is also your home, though in a less literal/physical sense. I would disagree that you don't have a good reason to kick this person - they're consistently being rude to staff, which in my opinion is a bannable offense itself if not resolved, and from your description they've refused to at least be neutral towards you. I imagine it's also making members uncomfortable. While you haven't specified a time frame, it seems as though this has been going on for a while. It will not get better. They will not shape up. Not to mention that a site can survive any member leaving, but if the admin gives up, it's toast. If the friends start drama, well, ban them too. Start shit get hit. They've made it clear they don't respect you and I can't imagine why they're still hanging around when they've been acting passive-aggressively for a long time (or even outright aggressively, as you mentioned one called you names, and I would have banned that individual at the time). It's typically expected of members that they don't cause drama or uncomfortable situations, whether for staff or members, and if they don't play nice, I think it would be unreasonable for them to expect you to handhold them through the process even if they showed willingness to change. I would DM them explaining that they've been removed from the community for inappropriate behaviour and they can politely ask for their apps to be emailed to them. Then ban them from the Discord and site. If they only get aggressive with you in DMs, block them on Discord. They've had multiple chances to be normal human beings and instead they've decided to be assholes. It's time for them to go and it's better to do it now instead of getting more and more miserable.
  25. Heya so I admin a site with one other person. It's a dystopian site. Anyways, I had to put my admin foot down about a few issues to three of the members, who are all friends. Admittedly I was a little heavy-handed with my tone and how I addressed it, but I did apologize later about it. One of the members I specifically reached out to was someone who I considered a friend, but when I approached them, they would not accept my apology and instead went on to call me various things. Then promptly backpedaled when I went silent for some time, saying they weren't cussing me out. Against my better judgment, I didn't ban them because I thought we could go back to being friends or at least tolerating each other because I REALLY didn't want drama, but I told them it was best if we cut off all ties to each other. Plots and all. I allowed them to stay on my site even after calling me names, and this isn't the first strike they've had either. Now they try to drown me out in the discord, using their two other friends to talk over me, and they purposefully go OUT OF THEIR WAY to ignore me. Like if I chime in when it's dead silent to something someone says, they will immediately chime in afterward to that person as well, and continue to talk to only that person, as if it's a competition. And I'm just sick and tired of it. I dread coming on my own site, but now I don't have a good reason to kick this person, as the window of time has already kinda closed. Not to mention, if I kick them, their friends are either going to follow (which is whatever) or start some drama. So I guess my question is... should I just rip off the bandaid? Is it worth it to face the drama now than trying to continue living in anxiety and dread on my own site? I really don't wanna be heckled by their friends if I do kick them (because they seem like the type to do so), but I can't keep hating coming onto my site. Pls help. 😕
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  28. I support a lot of what has been said before. I do agree that isolation of any section of the forum is unlikely to resolve the matter, in fact, it is likely to encourage a degree of validation of the kinds of behaviour that you're looking to avoid in the first place. While it is important to listen to the people on your site; I suggest one on one with a few, especially the ones who left (if you can) as they will likely have the best means of saying why they left and that made it impossible for them to think about staying any longer. Also check the quiet people on your site; they are likely loyalists who want to hope that things will improve but cannot invest more time into what could well end up failing. But from my own experience, these quiet ones often have the biggest insights particularly when they have been active beforehand. However, this along with checking within your own selves will only go so far as sometimes it can be hard to accept or see the problems - a case of the wood for the trees and all that. During some quieter periods like this; small OOC events can be a boost. Encourage your members to come in and see about bringing them to the board. Get them focused on character making, plots and above all writing but do it as delicately as possible. Such as making it about threading challenges, like extra rewards for meeting and interacting with new people, this could lean toward referrals. Ultimately you need look at the whole, step back and just see: What is working? Where isn't it working? And why? It is likely you know these answers. Don't be afraid (though you likely will be) and never be ashamed about stepping up and saying, we just need to go back to the drawing board. I've seen site revamps, time jumps and even complete overhauls work successfully and while you may not need to go there. It isn't about being defeated so, much as choosing to recognise that it will involve hard work. Finally, the toxicity... as others have said. Where is the source? Will doing any of the above mean this changes or would it backfire? Are they the complainers? The ones who always argue over the smallest thing, the ones who need to be the center of attention and become passive aggressive in their manner when denied anything.
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