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I could really use some perspective on this. Let me start with saying that I’m a staff member who helps with advertising, but I’m not an admin on the forum to which I am referring. I am purposefully keeping details vague. After drawn out OOC drama between different players (I was not involved) one player decided to leave. Let’s call her Amy. Amy told the admin that she was leaving because she did not feel this was a good environment for her. From what I saw, the admin tried hard to be neutral and mitigate what she could, but it seemed like a personality clash that was being pulled into IC issues. For example, Amy was refusing to thread with at least three different players. Some of the players felt like the admin was giving in to Amy too much. Etc etc. Amy returned to the board and began deleting her old posts and replacing them with memes targeted at the admin and other players. The admin went back and deleted these memes and was able to restore the writing (these were threads with partners) and block Amy from accessing the site. A few of the players left behind had personal plots with their characters and Amy’s, and approached the admin about resolving them. A few said it would make more sense/give the storyline closure if the character were to die. That was decided and the resulting characters have been able to grieve and write out the loss. Amy has found out about this and began reaching out to the admin and another player on the site to demand her character not be killed because she didn’t give permission. She told the admin this has caused a flare in her mental health issues. The admin apologized for her struggle, but said that this was decided to work best with the remaining storylines and other players. She’s made multiple accounts to rejoin the server and message the admin, said she reported the site, writing about the situation in public forums, etc. Amy has now found me on another popular RP discussion forum and begun messaging me, telling me to pass on messages to the admin. When I said I wasn’t going to do that, she is now saying that I’m aiding the admin in harming her and what I’m doing is harassment (this is because I told her what she was doing was harassment, to be fair). I just don’t know what to say or do. I am truly sorry she is struggling over this, and she’s saying her mental health is keeping her from moving past it. Her expectations (I just found out) were that her character would be said to have left and then never be referred to again. She believes the writing on the site about the other characters reaction to the death is her character being written/played without her consent. I’ve never been on a site that pretended a character ceased to exist, so that’s new for me. I can see how you might not like an OC dying because you care about them, but this fiction after all and she’s no longer on the site. I also....don’t want to be involved, if I’m honest. I tried sending her mental health resources when she said she was without them, but that backfired. She turned the phrases I used against me, saying that she was trying to help herself by not letting people take things from her. Any help is appreciated. I’m feeling like I can’t even “safely” play on the site myself now that I’m pulled into it. Anonymous poster hash: a2825...368
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I've brought my baby back online after four years hibernation. It's super exciting, and I'm ecstatic that so many of our old crew have chosen to come back. It's actually floored me how much support we've got. Naturally, there are those who don't have the time, resources, interest or desire to play the characters they did four years ago. In one case, a player who chose not to return had characters with intimate connections to many of my characters. This meant I had to consider her characters in updating what mine had been up to over the last four years, and how those situations had changed. I didn't want to write those characters out of the histories, as there were still more characters that were coming back and getting the stories straight would just be a nightmare. I spoke to the player and she offered me the ability to have those particular characters adopted by other players. I declined the offer---I feel there's way too much history for anyone to be expected to cover, and I didn't think anyone would do them proper justice. So my question is: Have you ever been in a situation where you had to exit another player's character from your character's story? How did you go about it? I feel... very rotten in situations where I've had to portion blame for an argument/break up on a character that can't defend themselves. I've tried to make both sides as blameworthy as the other, but at the same time I don't want to throw my character into excessive turmoil for the sake of a player who isn't coming back. What are your thoughts?
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