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Morrigan

Things I stress about as a member...

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BLUF: Other players stress me out as a player. Because ultimately its the personality dynamic/drama level that typically makes or breaks a site for me. For specifics I've given below in no particular order... and yes, I gave these player types little nick names and this is is written in a semi-humorous tone.  

 

1) The Clique. When it becomes painfully obvious the already existing players have decided who they're going to play with and I'm left putting characters and posts out there with the hope that they're interesting enough to at least get some notice. I get visions of being in the lunch room back in junior high where I'm left wondering where I should sit and if I will be welcome. If I can't make any headway with the clique I stop bothering.

 

2) The Admin's pet. They're not the admin per say but boy do they hold a lot of power over the admin and they will use it, oh yes they will. I've been shoved out of a forum that I helped pay for because of an Admin's pet. I've been cursed at for the mistake of calling an Admin's pet the wrong gender pronoun even after I apologized for the honest mistake. I see one, I run away from it and the site, immediately.

 

2) The Bodice Ripper. I've harped on this before but I really do not like the people who want to pre-game a romance between their character and yours then get super obsessive on the topic.   I've encountered two such players so when I see the warning signs I tend to get super nervous about a blow out and hook up all my characters with NPCs or make them non-romancable.

 

3) The Showboat. Everything has to be about the Showboat, All. Of. The. Time. Either the ever expansive monologues about how wonderful their character is, how clever their story lines are, and heaven forbid you try to get a word in edgewise about your writing to do something as silly as plan stories. I can take a Showboat in small doses, I mean everyone loves talking about their characters, but after a while I'm left nervous about even trying to broach plot with them because if their characters aren't center stage I might as well piss up a rope.

 

4) Therapy Seeker.  Now, I like to think myself as a reasonably compassionate person... my personality type is ISFJ (the guardian) so I'm naturally prone to want to protect and comfort folks... but then there's the person who may indeed have problems but has decided to bring it to the site chat for the attention. They won't know me from Adam but boy will they tell me about how crappy their lives are. And their lives are always crappy because despite their life being crap they're not willing to do anything to alleviate the issue(s). When I'm around a Therapy Seeker too long I'm left emotionally drained and we never do get about to writing... ever. Also, they suck the life out of all the other writers as well because everything has to be dropped to listen to/comfort the Therapy Seeker.

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I tend to worry that I haven't read the site's lore well enough, and that if I mention something it'll turn out that I'm wrong. Like in an AU fandom site, referencing some specific town and finding out that in this particular AU, that town was destroyed in an event and I just missed it somehow while I was reading.  It leads to me obsessively reading every little piece of information I can find, even if it means having to read through 4 years of misc. updates just to be in the know. 

 

I also tend to worry that my writing isn't Good Enough™, but that's just the impostor syndrome talking. I don't call myself a Writer™ because I'm a Programmer, and I can't say I've ever even had the inclination toward writing a novel (like for NaNo). So seeing other people's lovely flowing works and beautiful prose always makes me wonder if they aren't just rolling their eyes every time they get a reply from me and wishing I was better. 

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How overpowered is overpowered for this setting? What can I do to make my character unique and silly while still respecting the GM's vision? Will the other players like me, or will they think my character is a pointless distraction?

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When threads stall into low momentum mode whether because the characters are poorly matched,  one player only reacts but doesn't add to the story, or keeps saying no instead of yes-and (no is ok occasionally, but that no needs have a purpose), or characters are just talking too long and need a bit of drama that neither player feels safe to create . I'm not the best at plot pushing and making dramatic things happening myself, so its really hard for me to turn around a stalling thread.

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How my characters will be received, and if people will be interested in plotting with them?  

 

Finding ways to incorporate site lore into my character's history, so I can have them feel as if they belong in the world that the staff has created.  

 

If I'll be able to meet the activity requirements.  

 

Other members, in general.  Will they want to plot with me and discuss ideas with me, or will they show no interest.  If I throw ideas at them, will they respond back or keep me waiting and waiting.  Or if we do plot, then I'm always nervous that they might vanish or lose interest.  

 

Integrating myself into the community.  I feel like this is always one of my biggest problems, and it goes with the members in generals as well.  I worry whether or not I'll be a good fit for the community, or if I won't be able to get plots or write with people because I don't chat in the c-box/discord as much as others.  I worry if I will interrupt an ongoing conversation by saying hi, and people will get mad at me or if they'll just continue on talking without acknowledging me. 

 

Deciding where a plot should move after a certain point.  Once a thread finishes or reaches a certain point where its time to start thinking about what happens next, then I start to question how I should bring it up with my writing partner.  I suck at approaching people and asking them because I never know when is a good time to ask them about what to do next.  Or for romance plots, to keep in contact and discuss how the relationship has developed since the last thread ended to when the next begins.  

 

 

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generally do not allow anything RPG to overly stress me out. Things still come up, but usually I just deal with them and move on. This is not always true and @Garmr touched on several of my RP issues as well so I will not repeat them. ;)

 

I do worry about making my sites pleasant, lore and information easy to find, and that my members are happy and getting what they want out of the RP itself. I am the only admin at the moment and I feel like everyone expects me to write with all of them all of the time. I don't think that's true, it's just my worry-brain taking over.

 

Over and beyond unexpected issues, my view on roleplaying now is that it is an escape and creative social outlet from real world stresses. Getting upset over imaginary characters in an imaginary universe does not seem productive and I avoid it if at all possible. I am a strong believer in keeping the drama in the stories and not behind the scenes.

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