dusk 106 Share Posted February 8, 2020 Why is this so hard?! So I used to be an almost daily poster until late last year when... I don't even know what happened? I started going to the gym? Got a new, uh, friend? It was also shortly after I was promoted at work (yay more fucking stress). Mostly, I fell out of a habit I didn't even realize I had, which was of writing every day. I would usually post in the early morning before work, and maybe get one out after work. But then I wasn't. Now I feel disconnected with the site I'm a member on, and like I'm not actually welcome there. And on my own, I just feel guilty af. Tried an event to get things moving. Little happened. Tried to remember to post but what I think are days turn into weeks and then the weeks into months 😱 What was my point again? Oh yeah! How do you get back into the habit?! Obviously, just do it. But somehow returning to writing feels different than returning to eating healthy. And I love writing! I have all these damn plot children that have things to do! 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grimscythe 181 Share Posted February 9, 2020 For the place you don't feel welcome at: I'd re-evaluate how necessary it is to stay there. Is it your site? If not, then honestly... and I don't tend to like putting it this way, but you've done just fine without them. (I learned the hard way about trying to stay where I felt unwelcome.) When you're hopping back in the saddle for roleplay (at least from the dozens of times I've done it), it's always best to find somewhere where people accept you for you. Sometimes it can take a little bit to feel your way around, but that's okay. Finding a place to roleplay really isn't much different from trying on a new [insert article of clothing]. You either like the way it fits, you're unsure of it, or you don't. It's where that line is gray--uncertainty--that you have to be more cautious. The good news is this though: there are plenty of places out there to write, plenty of places looking for roles are staff filled, and as cliche as it may sound, you have worlds at your fingertips. Don't let your attempts to come back thus far discourage you. Find somewhere you feel comfortable, find new friends, a new home. We as roleplayers are not bound by any preconceived notion of loyalty--and if a guilt trip gets laid on you for that? Well, you were better off before, weren't you? Real life always gets in the way, but it's important to remember we have lives that we must live. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Bishop 172 Popular Post Share Posted February 9, 2020 This is the topic for me to answer. If ever there was one...it is this. Ok so, quick backstory. Nothing drama happened with my site or any that I was a member on, I just flat out had a full plate. Medullary Thyroid Cancer can do that! Stress with work. Brain fog from the thyroid issue...you name it. How I got back into the hobby and habit? I fell back in love with it. I took the few things that I loved/hated with the whole ordeal and just sort of sorted that into different places. 1. Admin duties. I didn't hate doing them, but you do feel guilty and almost unwelcome. Especially for me when I didn't tell anyone what was going on at the time, mostly because everything happened so fast. I let that go. I let it alllll go. You have to let go of the guilt. Because 9 times out of 10 it is only you that is feeling it. Like no one is angry at you. No one should be angry at you. If they are? Well...they need a life yo. These things happen! 2. Fall back in love with your characters. Fall hard for them. For me, I found a PB that I have always wanted to use and I flat out used him to a point that I love love love to write him. Like when I think about him I get excited and want to write him further! 3. Fall back in love with life. Read a book. Watch a movie. Go on a long walk in the woods. For me? I took the whole fall/winter as a time to recover not only from the shock of having cancer, but from the fact I have had it so long my body was just getting used to it. Stress is a cancer. Work stress. Life stress. It is all cancer. Mental health is as bad as any cancer out there, and just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't hurting you. Make sure your heart is full and that your mind is right. 4. Last but not least. Lean in on your loved ones. Find those sweet happy little souls that make this hobby so much fun and know that your true friends will always welcome you back in. And if they don't? Find a new tribe. 2 2 1 "Everyone has been doing so much soul searching during all of this, and I'm just over here drawing pics of my character's dicks." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jones 177 Share Posted February 10, 2020 Tell your boyfran to learn to share 😜 Also don't stress the other place. They've never treated you right. Just give it all to me. I'll keep you on the horse. Where is my whip emoji? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blondie 98 Share Posted February 11, 2020 I feel ya! I've been struggling and only able to post in two places and now one of those is closed. The others are just sitting there glaring at me wondering where their drama and stories have gone off to hide. *shrugs* Find me at: - Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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