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I find that I still have a passion to write with others but slowly yet surely I have been losing interest for RP as a whole. Its hard to explain because I love the community here on the Initiative but RP in general is just filled with petty drama queens and vindictive people that go on crusades to ruin other peoples enjoyment in this hobby.

 

Whether its to spread rumors (whether true or not) just to black list a person from other sites because someone doesn't like them or they found they did something wrong or whatever. I find that forgiveness is not in most RPers natures which is very sad for me. Once a sinner, always a sinner. Though I can't fault them too much. I'm a rather unforgiving person myself.

I also mourn friends loved and lost through the sands of shut down sites.

Getting the motivation to post has been a trial.

Finding a site has been a trial.

 

I find playing with new people sometimes a daunting and perilous task even though I seriously WANT to find new RP partners and play on new sites with new things to do.

Creating a site seems exciting still but all of the things that come along with creating it are daunting. Putting my site on directories. Advertising to people etc.

 

I don't necessarily want to leave RPing but I'm struggling to find what I first loved about it. The good and fun people. The excitement of creating a new story or someone doing something unexpected because you've never RPed before.

 

All I want is the be inspired again and all I find are cynical reasons not to be.

 

Anyone else feel this way or know how to deal with it?

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On 8/12/2021 at 12:10 PM, Guest Anonymous said:

Its hard to explain because I love the community here on the Initiative but RP in general is just filled with petty drama queens and vindictive people that go on crusades to ruin other peoples enjoyment in this hobby.

 

I was in this exact headspace when I joined the Initiative back in 2017. 

 

I started out my roleplay career on this obscure site called Vampires! The Dark Alleyway. It was (maybe still is?) an ultra simple grid-based mid-90's created game where you made your vampire and navigated squares based on blood power or some shit. You could feast on mortals or try to attack other vampire players. The grid game itself never held much interest for me, but there was a chatroom attached to it - that was where I was first introduced to RP

 

My next step into the RP world was through Neopets, back when Adam and Donna still owned and ran the site - long before they sold it off to Nickelodeon. Back then there were two primary RP means. There were the actual RP forums where players would set up short term rapid fire RPs that would eventually burn out either through time or max number of postings. The second method was through Guilds. 

 

The forums were really where my love of RP blossomed. We would form friend groups and jump into the threads created. Between one another we'd post between 20-30 posts each, in groups up to 10, per night. For  years.  There was a 350 character count on every post so you could only reply with so much, and it made players focus on actionable content. 

 

In short, it was rapid fire style RP. No one was focused on word counts or unnecessary descriptions - we all had imaginations and would fill in the blanks. It was great. Things happened. Plots moved forward rapidly. 

 

Well, Nickelodeon bought them out (No blame, they're probably still retired comfortably off that money in their early 40's now) and started going PC/PG. That was when I moved into forum RP

 

Forum RP was a different animal. All the word count elitists. People convinced you can't have a good RP without word vomiting. The curtains can't just be blue - you have to write a whole paragraph about how blue they are and/or why they're blue. It was all a low key competition. Who could write better. Who thinks they can write well but really suck, how were we going to black list them. 

 

I've always loved to write and I've always received accolades for my skill. I let myself get sucked up into the elitist asshole side of it all for a long, long time - one of my biggest regrets in my RP career.  Eventually the burnout became real. Dozens of sites joined. Hundreds of threads written. Yeah, they had nice long posts but...they all died without a finish. Nothing was ever resolved. I would find myself looking at threads that hadn't been replied to (or that I hadn't replied to) in 3-6 months to over a year. It was disheartening and depressing. 

 

Anyway, I say all this to encourage you to let yourself free of all those stressors that you mentioned in your original post. 

 

I think you may be best off not even trying to join a forum based site. Look for Discord based rapid fire roleplays - or forum based, though those are harder to find than Discord bsaed. You'll be able to create and present your characters, then actually use them consistently. 

 

Joining the Initiative re-sparked my love of RP because I found a partner who didn't give a fuck about word counts or flowery descriptions. She was - and to this very day still is - only concerned with the actionable content of posts. She rekindled the joy I felt back in the early days when it was simple. Prior to joining and meeting this person, I'd flat given up on RP for nearly 3 years because the social politics were such energy draining BS. 

 

Anyway, by simple I mean focus on writing only what is actionable. What good is a 500 word post if only 25-70 words within that post provide content to actually reply to? That's how you wear yourself out as a writer. Find a space that will let you post and actually progress. Forums aren't the end all be all of RP - give other mediums a shot. 

 

 

 



 

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I've been in and out of the rp world (in variable mediums) for many years. I've walked away to take some time off but would always find myself back. It wasn't that my love of it was gone, but I found that it was the people around me. I had my own vision and ideas of how I wanted to write. I don't give a Hoover Dam about word counts. I don't give a Beaver Dam about how flowery a post is or "has" to be. I write to enjoy myself. I write for me. Many times over I questioned my ability because it just didn't seem like anyone else enjoyed my writing or enjoyed writing with me. After a long time of blaming myself for not living up to others' expectations, I took the "if you build it, they will come" attitude. I refused to believe that I was the only one that saw rp from my perspective and I was right. I opened my first site and it wasn't much. I closed that and then began to build again. Didn't quite catch that one. The one I did build, they came. We enjoyed. We grew. Now we have 2 sites respectfully and we love our little corner of the world. We may not be everyone's plate of spaghetti but it works for us. If others join, we get happy and draw them in. When some leave, we wish them well and hope they come back. My best advice is to find like minded folks. Those that see the world like you do. Network with them. What they play may not be your thing, but they may know folks (again likeminded) that can lead to your thing or you might find you love what they do. Take a different path if you don't like the scenery around you. If it's not something you enjoy or the people aren't what you feel joy with, then move on. The RPC is expansive even if we seem small. In the mean time, write little stories for yourself (if the Discord idea isn't your cup o'joe). Write characters, enjoy seeing it come to life. Then go from there. Best of luck to you. I hope you find what you're looking for.

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I've also gone through my own experience of losing interest in the roleplaying realm that I've frequented for many years (forum roleplays). I predominantly roleplay on animanga forums and the community is much smaller than RL as well as a much younger generation than myself. In a sense, I feel like I've outgrown that particular community and with age I find that my values and expectations are different than most of that communities values and expectations.

 

Thankfully, at least, I know that roleplaying branches off into many various sub-groups. There's DeviantArt, Tumblr, and the 1x1 email/Discord/GoogleDocs lists. I may eventually branch away from animanga forums all together to try these different avenues. But, for now, my friend and I run our own site and we hope to bring like-minded roleplayers to our forums and have a happy as well as fun experience there.

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On 8/12/2021 at 1:10 PM, Guest Anonymous said:

I find that I still have a passion to write with others but slowly yet surely I have been losing interest for RP as a whole. Its hard to explain because I love the community here on the Initiative but RP in general is just filled with petty drama queens and vindictive people that go on crusades to ruin other peoples enjoyment in this hobby.

 

Whether its to spread rumors (whether true or not) just to black list a person from other sites because someone doesn't like them or they found they did something wrong or whatever. I find that forgiveness is not in most RPers natures which is very sad for me. Once a sinner, always a sinner. Though I can't fault them too much. I'm a rather unforgiving person myself.

I also mourn friends loved and lost through the sands of shut down sites.

Getting the motivation to post has been a trial.

Finding a site has been a trial.

 

I find playing with new people sometimes a daunting and perilous task even though I seriously WANT to find new RP partners and play on new sites with new things to do.

Creating a site seems exciting still but all of the things that come along with creating it are daunting. Putting my site on directories. Advertising to people etc.

 

I don't necessarily want to leave RPing but I'm struggling to find what I first loved about it. The good and fun people. The excitement of creating a new story or someone doing something unexpected because you've never RPed before.

 

All I want is the be inspired again and all I find are cynical reasons not to be.

 

Anyone else feel this way or know how to deal with it?

 

Find a small community. They hold the best experience. 

I've never lost my drive in the last 24 years of writing. However, I stay away from communities based on signs. If the world is just background noise, and there is no internal logic governing magic, I walk away. I feel settings should be more important then anyone OC and must evolve (along with the Lore) to reflect the players choices. For both good and ill.

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On 8/14/2021 at 5:11 AM, Dragon said:

 

 

I was in this exact headspace when I joined the Initiative back in 2017. 

 

I started out my roleplay career on this obscure site called Vampires! The Dark Alleyway. It was (maybe still is?) an ultra simple grid-based mid-90's created game where you made your vampire and navigated squares based on blood power or some shit. You could feast on mortals or try to attack other vampire players. The grid game itself never held much interest for me, but there was a chatroom attached to it - that was where I was first introduced to RP

 

My next step into the RP world was through Neopets, back when Adam and Donna still owned and ran the site - long before they sold it off to Nickelodeon. Back then there were two primary RP means. There were the actual RP forums where players would set up short term rapid fire RPs that would eventually burn out either through time or max number of postings. The second method was through Guilds. 

 

The forums were really where my love of RP blossomed. We would form friend groups and jump into the threads created. Between one another we'd post between 20-30 posts each, in groups up to 10, per night. For  years.  There was a 350 character count on every post so you could only reply with so much, and it made players focus on actionable content. 

 

In short, it was rapid fire style RP. No one was focused on word counts or unnecessary descriptions - we all had imaginations and would fill in the blanks. It was great. Things happened. Plots moved forward rapidly. 

 

Well, Nickelodeon bought them out (No blame, they're probably still retired comfortably off that money in their early 40's now) and started going PC/PG. That was when I moved into forum RP

 

Forum RP was a different animal. All the word count elitists. People convinced you can't have a good RP without word vomiting. The curtains can't just be blue - you have to write a whole paragraph about how blue they are and/or why they're blue. It was all a low key competition. Who could write better. Who thinks they can write well but really suck, how were we going to black list them. 

 

I've always loved to write and I've always received accolades for my skill. I let myself get sucked up into the elitist asshole side of it all for a long, long time - one of my biggest regrets in my RP career.  Eventually the burnout became real. Dozens of sites joined. Hundreds of threads written. Yeah, they had nice long posts but...they all died without a finish. Nothing was ever resolved. I would find myself looking at threads that hadn't been replied to (or that I hadn't replied to) in 3-6 months to over a year. It was disheartening and depressing. 

 

Anyway, I say all this to encourage you to let yourself free of all those stressors that you mentioned in your original post. 

 

I think you may be best off not even trying to join a forum based site. Look for Discord based rapid fire roleplays - or forum based, though those are harder to find than Discord bsaed. You'll be able to create and present your characters, then actually use them consistently. 

 

Joining the Initiative re-sparked my love of RP because I found a partner who didn't give a fuck about word counts or flowery descriptions. She was - and to this very day still is - only concerned with the actionable content of posts. She rekindled the joy I felt back in the early days when it was simple. Prior to joining and meeting this person, I'd flat given up on RP for nearly 3 years because the social politics were such energy draining BS. 

 

Anyway, by simple I mean focus on writing only what is actionable. What good is a 500 word post if only 25-70 words within that post provide content to actually reply to? That's how you wear yourself out as a writer. Find a space that will let you post and actually progress. Forums aren't the end all be all of RP - give other mediums a shot. 

 

 

 



 

 

I like your words a lot. I'm inspired to create a Discord rapid-fire RP now.

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