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Tell me about your bans

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We all have those dirty little admin spots that tickle just right when we ban someone. 

 

Tell me about the bans that made your toes curl, whether from justice or because you could finally be free of that moron.

 

Alternatively: Tell us why you got banned!

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It takes *so much* for me to use the banhammer. The few cases where I have, though, it has been delicious.

 

  • My IRL ex-best friend, who basically kicked me out of our house, and proceeded to convince everyone on Tally that she was the victim. And her little minion that followed her everywhere (used to be a thread partner of mine until ex-best friend legit turned her against me) -- that felt good. SO good.
  • My two pain-in-the-arse staffies that almost destroyed everything I built. Almost drove me away from the board, and actually had me vomiting with anxiety. 
  • Another IRL ex-friend who pretty much stole from me and my now co-admin, and decided that she would tell the world that we were horribly intolerant of her identity. I don't care how a person identifies, if you live in my house, you pay your share for food.

Those felt so good for my soul. Aside from one of the staffies, I've actually never had to ban anyone I hadn't met IRL.

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I was banned from a site which story I liked and I was just reading it silently, without being a member and without disturbing anyone. It seems they were afraid that if I read their story, I want to plagiarize it? It sounds strange.

 

I was asked to leave, but not banned, just told I was not a good fit, on two sites which functioned with less communication than I liked. I agreed I was not the best fit for those sites and I left peacefully, but as long as I was willing to try (and I got involved in the story, and I was a regular poster/ active, involved member), they shouldn't have told me to leave. Soon after my leave, both sites had died of inactivity...

 

In 7 years and a half of running my site, there were very few people actually banned. I think only the trolls were banned, and 3-4 people were told they weren't a good fit. Among those 3-4, I remember a Dutch boy who was not enough fluent in English and wrote with google translator, so we had a difficult time in getting understood each other. It wouldn't have worked. Another was the highly competitive badass character (and writer) who would have fit better on a videogame, having his character blow off all ships and shoot all the enemies. Here we value collaboration, research and realism. Historical fiction is different of historical fantasy, and writing with others has its own rules. The others were different kind of badass characters owned by writers who threw a fit when they didn't get what they wanted (with explaining the reasons). So... don't let the door hit you...

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At one X-Men game where I played Wolverine, members of another RPG not associated with the one I was in, posted a whole bunch of really vicious comments about my portrayal of the character. I asked the Admin about it and he brushed it off so, after a few days to cool the hurt feelings, I quietly and peacefully resigned from the site. Later, someone I knew from the site asked why I'd been banned. I told them I had no idea and that I had quit. 

 

During my many long years of staffing and adminning RPGs, I have encountered problem players. Usually, when taken to task for not following our rules or outright bad RP, they threw hissy fits and left. I have only banned one person.

 

A great deal of our storytelling is done via joint posts. At this Stargate board, we had a forum where our players could collaborate and write out their JP (they all had edit permissions for that one forum). This one player had his military character not follow orders, smart-mouth his team leader, and then was insubordinate to the General. The writers of the Colonel and the General wrote in their posts which, in effect, put the miscreant on report pending disciplinary action.

 

The player of the insubordinate character went into the post and rewrote almost all of it. He took out his character's actions, and rewrote the responses from the other two players. Fortunately, they had followed the rules and had kept the copies of the post as they added their responses.

 

He was banned and continued to plague Admin and the members whose email addresses he had for nearly a year - sending malicious ranting emails. He was not missed and I have to say that it felt good when I clicked the ban buttons on him, his email, and his IP.

 

I hadn't thought about that incident in years until I saw this thread!

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The ONE ban to my name is pretty boring: outright harassment of other members and being a nasty jerkward to the three members in question. The other 99 thousand times the players ragequit after I dared to bring down the Foot of Admin and draw lines in the sand as far as "acceptable" behavior went, or calling people out on their petty bullnarky. 

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There are quite a few people I blocked on twitter. There was a time when I was more tolerant of being messed around on there but I discovered that a writer had been pretending to be two different rpers by creating two different writer accounts - when that happened, I came to realize that most of the problems I had were from people who made multiple accounts and tried to keep them a secret, or were friends of people who did and endorsed it. I did not have a vomiting fit from anxiety from it, but I did have problems with diarrhea for about a week from anxiety. It wasn't just the secrecy of it, but the content of the massive godmodding which went on from the person who pretended to be two different writers. (I'd ban all these people from the forum if I had their ips or e-mail addresses, but I don't.)

 

Regarding the forum, I had one instance of plagiarism which I banned some for, but nothing as bad as the previous problem.

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- Had a guy who was the only truly dedicated player in a bad batch of flakes. Naturally he rose to the forefront, charmed me with his ways, and started out by asking for little reasonable custom things. Eventually he became a mod, big mistake. His true colours were shown when he 'taught members a lesson' by creating a stupid joke app to insult the ideas they had been talking about. He wondered why I demoted him for that. Eventually he told all the other active players some untrue crap (not sure what), but it was bad enough that they all took his side and jumped ship with him. I equate him to the Charles Manson of RP. Highly charismatic, everyone just gravitates towards him and thinks he's a great guy, but behind closed doors he was a monster. I sighed with satisfaction when I finally banned him ... and then sighed with satisfaction again when, years later, he discovered another of my games and excitedly talked about how he was going to join. I had the greatest pleasure of telling him to find someplace else and watching him slink off into the shadows.

 

- Anyone who just creates a cookie cutter character and then refuses to change it. You know the type, the biography is a few vague paragraphs that does not reference the setting at all. They literally go from one site to another, copy-pasting that same effortless app of theirs. I tell them to do edits and make it fit into the world the want to play in. They usually get snippy, or change like three words tell me it's done. Not sorry ask them to leave, and if they don't go quietly, banning them.

 

- Anyone who starts arguments then begs to be given a second chance. This is toe curling. Sorry, no second chance after you've barged into the public cbox and told another member to 'shut the fuck up and eat a dick' because you don't like their interpretation of something.

 

- This last one isn't banning, but archiving. When you get super demanding types who turn up and immediately start telling you what you should or shouldn't be doing to your setting, which has worked for years before they turned up. 'Oh you should add this! You can't function without it!' And then they never show up again, typical drive by apper. It is nice to archive their character, akin to spring cleaning and getting rid of the crap you don't need.

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I've only ever had to ban someone once and it was for plagiarism. The thing that makes it "interesting" is that what they plagiarized were my apps from another site of the same fandom. When those apps went up for approval I clicked on them and just... 

 

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Turned out this person was using these apps on several other sites as well and had even gone so far as to Copypasta entire posts and threads for those characters as well and on one site he was even claiming to be me. It was surreal.

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Well I just had to straight up ban someone for being insensitive towards a staff member who gave a personal reason why they couldn't use literal actual Nazi Joseph Goebbels as an FC. They gave a very lacklustre apology (saying something about it wasn't a big deal to them because they didn't have a personal connection to what the Jews suffered through and saying how they had a crush on Goebbels????) so the rest of the staff knew that this was not someone we wanted to deal with. Along with other, insensitive comments they had made on another issue, this member honestly felt like a ticking time bomb.

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Oh, how this leaves such a bad taste in my mouth. The only time I have ever used the banhammer. Part of me is still sad about it but whatever, they made their beds and chose to act like they did. Let them lay in it. Kind of a long story too, or maybe not, in hindsight.

 

Former friends, one I'd known since 2010, the other since 2014. They were both close with me and the co-admin of my current site (who has been a part of most sites I've been on) and the two mods of an old wolf rp as well, who we all knew and were close with. The instigators in question were regular members.

 

Anyways, 2016 election rolls around. The two members got very nasty and very angry. It's always been a policy of mine that if you can't keep a civil tongue, not to discuss politics or religion for the obvious reason. They're touchy subjects and everyone has their opinions.

 

Of course, these 2 raged and cried. End of the world, we're all racist nazis, you know the drill. Okay, we get it, election did not go how you wanted. Me and the other two admins refrained from discussing politics around them as we all have different views from them (and each other actually, but we're mature enough to respect the others opinions and not throw hissy fits).

 

The two members would not and would constantly start things including in our site's cbox. They'd often to it when myself and the admins/mods were away at work or school and IN FRONT OF NEW MEMBERS. Third person (one of the mods) tried so hard to keep everyone being civil but wound up getting very passive aggressive with both me, the two admins and the two members. I understood because politics are hell for her anxiety (and mine) and let the snippy comments to me slide. The two members however became increasingly hostile I'd also commissioned art of one of their characters months before and had just gotten the finished product. The member in question didn't thank me, turned around and insulted me, the artist and my characters, one of whom was the mate of the character who I'd ordered art for. She then proceeded to block me and post alllll over fb and our group chat about how intolerant I was. 

 

Long story short, the two members are no longer welcome on my boards. Especially not the one I ordered art for. Even the others were a little shell shocked. The mod is welcome if she ever decides to talk to us again but I won't hold my breath.

 

First time I've been the shoulder for someone to cry on. Hell, both me and current co-admin were vomiting out of stress at one point or another, and it takes a lot to stress out co-admin. Needless to say that "no politics if you can't be civil or handle different views" rule is now very strictly enforced on my sites. The original site this occurred on died quite quickly because of this issue and also really turned me off of wolf rps in general. I'm also a lot more wary of newcomers and sites I'm thinking of joining than I was, which isn't fair to them. At all.

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I once accidentally banned my coadmin from the Cbox because I went to delete a duplicate message and hit the ban button instead. I was also drinking wine at the time, which may or may not have contributed to this. Thankfully, Discord doesn't have the same issues with buttons being close together. 

 

Other than that, my ban stories are pretty tame. People who harass other members, rogue ex-members, spammers, etc. Nothing too drop down crazy. 

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  1. A new member started sending sexual, inappropriate pictures to a member after she told him to stop, and was also coming on to every female member on the board. (The second part would have just warranted a message to stop, but the first got him an immediate ban).
  2. A member was essentially stalking another one. She was sending him messages on discord, on the site, emails, and every other form of communication she had for him begging him to talk to her (warning #1). She then started bad mouthing him in general chat (warning #2)and when we told her to stop she started doing it in PMs to anyone who would listen. Then she started unloading all of her personal problems on the same people who listened to her complain about the other male member and essentially just became a huge dark cloud over the site (warning #3) -  we found out she continued this even after we told her to stop when we had 3 different members tell us they were going to leave the site because of her because they couldn't take it anymore. We banned her after that. 
  3. Our most recent one was just a shit show. This member joined and knew the lore and all that and seemed like they would be a good addition and then they started to rub people the wrong way. He constantly correctly lore, fought with the moderators when they answered questions telling the mods they were wrong and essentially started to make everyone who wasn't familiar with the series our site was based one feel like absolute shit with his condescending attitude. He would say that he didn't mean to come off that way at all and said he would stop and then would turn around the same day and do it again. Then a random comment made in a channel on discord about a character reacting badly to his set him off. And essentially what it came down to was that he refused to have a character act badly or violently towards his and if they did he would just ignore it and blah blah blah. When he went to talk to the member who had made the (joking, non-canon) comment it turned into a huge fight. To the credit of the member who made the comment, she kept her head for the most part, which I know was hard to do for her, especially with how this guy was talking to her. All that led to him being banned. (Oh, did I mention that I had given him 3 warnings in less than a week and this entire thing happened in the span of a week and a half?)
  4. The last one isn't really a member ban... But we've had to ban at least 6 different IP addresses because an admin and her staff from another site were literally stalking one of my members and at one point posted on another resource site saying that one of her members had successfully joined our site and was essentially a spy for them. This admin would also tell me about reporting us to JCINK (which John confirmed she never actually did) and threatened to sue the site (I know, right?). The entire thing is/was completely asinine and I have no idea who has the time to stalk another site/person like that. 
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