-hugs Elena- I'm sorry this is happening and your mother is being difficult. Is there anyone else who can help you look after your mother to give you some respite from it? 

Nobody can do it, it's me. I get help from my husband, but in what is up to him: repairing things in the house, changing bulbs, bringing the heavier supplies, etc. It's the daily things with her being difficult which exasperate me. If she obeyed, at least in the most important aspects (eating and taking her medicine when due) it would have been no difficulty for me. 

But so, besides the consequences for her own health (and indirectly for me too - what if, God forbid it, her health deteriorates with messing up with the medicine and she gets a cerebral stroke or something? I had never children, I don't know how to change pampers or how to bathe someone else who doesn't cooperate) it also feels that I am nothing for her, if my words never matter, if I am presumed that I don't know anything and I am talking nonsense (or, worse, that I am ill-intended) and only what's in her stubborn head does.

Can you hire assistance? I'm not sure if it is too expensive for you to get to help you. I can't really offer much in the way of help. But I can offer you an ear whenever you need it. ❤️

Besides being very expensive, the problem is that 1) reliable helpers are difficult to find (not to steal, to actually do their job, etc.) and 2) if she doesn't listen to me, do you think she'd obey a stranger, more, a stranger paid from her pension? She would say horrible things about the helper and about us together 😞

So it's my cross to bear, the main problem that I am not too prepared for it. I haven't even studied psychology at all in Uni. I am not sure how to relate to her, how to make myself understood and obeyed.