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So this is just at the forefront of my mind and is something I've been avoiding like the plague since my somewhat recent run-in with it. In a thread with another member of a forum I was part of (I hadn't Rped with this person before, but they were friendly and I was new, so I leaped at the opportunity to start), their character kept knowing what mine was thinking or planning. As a random example, she would say something along the lines of "oh... I'm sorry to hear that" but would be thinking in her head "holy shit this guy is a psycho, I'm gonna be found chopped up in tiny pieces somewhere, why did I come here with him?" And he somehow "sense" her discomfort (when she made no outward indication of such) and reassure her that he wasn't a threat, etc etc. And later on when he suddenly put his hand right by her face (non-threateningly, but my char didn't know this, and after his earlier dialogue she was already on edge) to do a magic trick he somehow "instinctively" caught her arm which she'd frantically thrown out to defend herself from a perceived attack... despite the fact that his dexterity was 4 points lower than hers. Then after he did his magic hoodoo and she was in awe of it (mouth agape, smiling, dazzled look), she also thought to herself how that magic could also be used for ill, to hurt people or take advantage of them, and she wondered if anyone should have such power. Well, apparently, and I quote the character: "I can read faces fairly well, and I definitely saw fear and concern. Are you worried I might try to harm you? Because I won't." So frustrating. I get that sometimes your character will catch on to what mine is thinking, especially if she's showing it in her expressions, but come on, every single time?? I don't remember ever encountering this so blatantly before - and this was coming from a person who'd been Rping for more than five years and is even older than me. And from what I gathered it was an issue other members were having with this person as well, but no one knew how to talk to them about it. Do you guys ever deal with the same thing? How do you manage it? Is there a good way to approach this issue with some tact and sensitivity so it doesn't hurt them, but rather encourages them to see what they're doing and try to correct it? I ended up leaving the site (for multiple reasons, not just this member) but I'm still friends with a few of them and would like to give advice (as well file away the information for the future).