Staffing What should be a "given" but isn't treated as such?

[Bass 26]

I don't come out and call my site LGBTQ friendly because, for me and my core members, it is just a given. That being said, I get why people do it. Regardless of how much we would like to consider this rp community to be pretty inclusive, there are a LOT of exclusive, bigoted individuals out there. I don't think there is anything wrong with being a proud and definitive ally. The POC one seems less like ally and more patronizing though. Once was on a site that required every other character members make be a POC. It was odd...

 

So this one may be heavily slanted to my personal opinion, but I wish it was a given that CBoxes should be kept PG-13. For one, it is part of the ToS for cbox.ws, not in rating form but yeah, and considering how many times I've been yelled at by random guests for things on my board that break jcink ToS, I'd think they'd care about that sort of thing. Second off, the cboxes aren't often age gated. You can age gate a discord, so I'll give it a pass as a substitute, but even if a site is age gated, nine times out of ten, the cbox is visible regardless. I have visited sites with porn directly in the cbox. I get that if your site is about sex, people will be more open to talking about it in conversation, which is fine, but when it gets to be nonstop gifs of people having sex, you are crossing a different kind of line. I don't mind seeing it personally, but it bothers me that these sites advertise on Disney and kid oriented sites only to subject the return advertiser to... deleting your ad, I hope.

 

Character Drama =/= Member Drama is what I wish was a given. Unfortunately, there a lot of people who just want their characters to be popular and friends with everyone and if so much as one person suggests that their characters wouldn't get along, the crap hits the fan and no one wants to be in that shower. I hate that writing conflict can be super difficult, so I reserve those plots for the rp buddies I know well. I wish I didn't have to tip-toe around everyone, wondering if my villain is going to get me kicked off a site for actually being mean.

[Vellamo 74]

12 hours ago, Mousie said:

Unfortunately, those rules are usually in place for the same reason that hairdryers have "do not lick the appliance" warning stickers.

 

Exactly this.

 

I think people like to think ideally, that these things should be obvious, especially for your average, sensible adult but it's like common sense. It should be a thing, but it just isn't. 

 

A lot of laws out there should be a given. You can't just shoot someone. And most of us are taught at some point that we should be mannerly, polite, caring, etc. Yet peniswaffles still run amok. You'd think after a couple generations, people'd get it right.

 

I used to think obvious didn't need to be anymore obvious but idk, people will find a way, man. "This is why we can't have nice things."

 

From my experience, it's not just the troublemakers or the idiots. It's also intelligent and well-meaning people too, who made an honest mistake or who needed a nudge in the right direction.

 

As an admin, I'm still trying to figure out how to tackle this. I've toyed with a "this is what we believe in and this is how we're gonna run the place" but that's still the same thing. As a member, I like having these things down on paper. Not because I feel more secure but it does give me an insight into what site I am joining. Even if I agree that the LGBT-friendly is redundant and 9/10 not helpful, the fact an admin took the time to include that tells me I am more likely to be around people like me than somewhere that is colourblind. 

 

Edited December 27, 2017 by Heath

[Rune 1,099]

On 12/27/2017 at 1:47 AM, Mousie said:

 

I would love to live in a world where those rules aren't needed. Unfortunately, those rules are usually in place for the same reason that hairdryers have "do not lick the appliance" warning stickers.

 

There will be someone. Somewhere. Who goes and does it, and then gets stroppy because "you never said I couldn't". I'm pretty relaxed as far as rules go, and tbh I don't care if they even get read. What matters to me is when that twerp does stumble across my board, and let's face it -- they'll ignore any rules and do what they want anyway -- I'll be able to point to that nice shiny sign that says "Don't do the thing".

 

I don't care if they've been read or not, but I do expect every member to behave accordingly. Most people do.

 

 

 

Which is why this thread was born.

 

These things SHOULDN'T have to be said! But here we are.

[Sadrienne 242]

Oh another one: "Real life comes first"

 

Anyone that doesn't respect another player's right to put their real life ahead of a hobby is, frankly, a bag of poop-sticks. 

[Shades 676]

This one comes from a weird experience, but I just remembered it talking to a friend:

 

When you transfer a character to a new site, you adapt this character to the new setting, not the other way around.

 

I've had to outright ban people (not characters, the actual player) from joining roleplays because they couldn't understand that their character with superpowers would not fit 'as is' on a setting where everyone is a regular human and superpowers simply don't exist. And after I had explained it several times, just to have them try to force their character in anyway, I gave up on working with tem. So, yeah, up until I met this person, I thought that was a given.

[Cypher 4]

"All RPs are not the same and just because one RP in the past did things one way doesn't mean all others will allow that to fly."

 

People should really look at site culture and posts first.