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I'm a sensitive little glob. So if there is aggressive teasing in the chat, I walk out. Even if I can tell it's meant to be playful, I just know I'm not the right person for a site.

 

Side-wide limits. (Like "no mention of depression or suicide on board") -- I just know that I will accidentally break this rule. (My posts and characters have a terrible habit of being triggery)

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I have to say I have amazing radar. There have been too many times I've just felt like something was wrong before a specific red flag appeared. But here are some that made my eyes fall out of my head.

  • When the refuse to read the rules, and get things wrong because it's not in front of their face
  • Getting replies to a want ad with ideas that are exactly what you said you didn't want. 
  • Claiming your not married (when your wife is a member on the site too). 
  • Being told "I'll just give this to everyone privately" when a member makes a 'cheat sheet' to avoid reading the rules and you tell them not to share it. 
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3 hours ago, Uaithne said:

- No sense of humor. I'm going to steal this from @firefly, okay?  But if somebody doesn't have a sense of humor (doesn't have to be exactly like mine), they might be a robot.  Or insane.


Don't talk shit about me Uainthe! That's just rude. :P

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12 hours ago, Mousie said:
  • Frequently breaks IC rules, but refuses to allow their character to be punished. Double points if they insist other characters are heavily punished for similar behaviours.

 

Omgosh. This so much. Especially in a crime setting. (Because criminals/villains aren't usually the "pull their punches" type)

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I'm going to be disorganized because I must create some chaos. MUAHAHA

 

I generally check sites for a few days before joining them and some are learned due to staffing 

 

Members that constantly talk about their family members. Okay, it's cute when you excited for your kid but I don't care if you are angry at your spouse. That's a matter between you and them. Nothing to do with me or the site.

 

People that bring up personal matters all the time. I'm running or joining a site. Not a pity party.  Sounds cold in away but seriously, I want people posting in the chatbox to be happy and create joy, not cause guests to go. Ew! Whiney site! Really, I want  to see. "That's an awesome plot idea. I can't start it." And they start it. "Snuggled on the chair with my puppy." They are happy thoughts. 

 

Watching someone try to fight with admin over something minor and admin doesn't want them to take it on. 

 

People claiming they have OCD. In all my years I've known a few people to actually have the illness. In RP, more times than not, OCD is code for, I don't care what you think, I'm going to do it my way.

 

When people fight over character for romance purposes on the chatbox

 

When an admin claims because something is not in the rules the cannot enforce it.  

 

When you go through plotters and you see "OMG we gotta plot. " and nothing else. Code you have to think of the said plot.

 

People that close and make sites for the purpose of making sites and nothing more. I get the fact that some sites don't pan out for xyz reasons. I'm not going hold anything against an admin that tries for 3 - 6 months and it just doesn't work out. 

 

 

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I could say a thousand things but... my view is admittedly biased, haha! I am such a picky staff member, and I run such a tight ship, that other places who don't just... drive me up the wall. xD But there are definitely things I've noticed, things that are bigger and bolder red flags than anything else.

 

1. Staff dedication/time management/overall activity. If I see a staff member ignoring their site to be on another, or just not interacting with their members/only role-playing with other staff members, that's a massive red flag and I am gonna run away as fast as I can. That ship's goin' down and I don't wanna go with it!

 

2. Negative topics being given free reign in public places. Hey, everybody has issues, but like? Push them to private places and keep that sort of negativity outta here! That's why I have a shout out and kudos place on my forum and Discord, because we wanna shout about awesome things, not rant about everything else! Extra red flags if you see this go on and staff are participating and not trying to redirect the conversation to better things.

 

3. A hastily thrown together site/lore/graphics/etc. Please make things work before you do the thing? I spend hours of my development time trying to make very sure that everything jives, and when I find some old thing that doesn't, I mark it down to fix (...because we do have some stuff that's over a decade old still XD), and I test the hell out of everything before it goes live. If your site is poorly put together, badly thought out, your lore contradicts itself, and you put things up 'because it's cool', what you doin' bro?

 

4. Members who never do anything but complain with staff not helping at all; members floundering for plots with no direction given. If I see a member who doesn't have a plot and wants one, I tag a bunch of folks who might be interested if I myself am not or don't have time - it works out really well!

 

5. Sites without credits. I know, we all started off that way, we all use things without linking back, it's a fact of life. But I've spent so much time trying to track down artists and get a good list of credits put together, as well as having my own art used without my knowledge or permission, that I can no longer abide watching stuff be used on sites without any pointers to where it was taken from. Luckily, this seems to be fading from the r/p world! WHOO! <3

 

Those are my top five; I won't go on farther xD But any of those will make me run away faster than you can blink. Effort is all it takes to fix such things, just a little tiny bit of effort!

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When the people on a site ignore new members, or are quick to bring them down.

I get it can be disheartening when new players vanishes right after plotting, or if some seem to avoid reading the plot and rules of the site.And I get one can be busy and have already many threads.

 

But I think new folks should still be given a chance. Sometimes just a little hi can do the trick. I've read around RPG-i that many people leave sites on which they are not given an opportunity to play or plot: in the end, ignoring new people can make them as flaky as what people use as an excuse to ignore them.

Plus new places can be so intimidating.

 

So the red flag would be when newbies are left completely to fend on their own, from the players' apathy or disdain

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I'm really, really ridiculously easygoing so even if I see red-flags I tend to ignore them in favor of the fact that I just REALLY want to play what I want to play and I generally think that nobody can stop me. BUT there are a few things that can trigger an anxious fit in me and they are:

 

Staff:
- Letting people walk all over them - if a staff member just lets people do whatever they want and doesn't chime in to settle things outright.
- Unfamiliarity with the source material - nobody is perfect, but if I as a filthy casual have more knowledge of the original lore than the administration.
- Venting publicly - Admin are people too. They should be able to privately discuss what is bothering them about the game, BUT they should do it to a trusted friend, and not on the boards for everyone to see.
- Having "Red Flaggy" Rules - I think this is something that just comes with experience, but once you've played a lot of roleplay you can really see a forum's rules and just KNOW that something fishy is going on or went on here. Especially if the page has rules just because one person did something asinine and they don't want a repeat of that. I HATE reading a bunch of rules demanding common sense & showing decency on the forums. It freaks me out because I think the admin are still shell-shocked and distrusting.
 
Players:
- Arguing with Admin - there is definitely a time & place to have discussions about how the site should run but why keep opening old wounds? Admin shouldn't just make changes willy-nilly, but it really nags me when players still make comments once the discussion is closed and the admin have made a decision as if it wasn't' hard for them!
- Not following the rules - or thinking they can ride them closely. Players that either didn't read or don't care about rules. Just. No.
- Players HAPPILY ignorant and/or insulting of the source material - I play in a lot of fandoms, sometimes someone joins that doesn't know the material. It isn't necessary, and I love helping introduce my favorite things to people. HOWEVER - there are those folks that are open about hating or proud about never reading or watching the source material of a forum. WHY? Why are you insulting me and the others here that love this??????
- Red Flaggy Characters - I always check a site's characters before I join. If everyone has characters with super awesome over-the-top backstories or their characters seem to always be perfect or always tragic I get cringy. Also characters from other stories and fandoms very obviously dumped into the new site makes me crazy. Don't try to bring your back-flipping super archer from the sci-fi of the year into a medieval intrigue game or I get worried.
- A Community that Never Posts - This one REALLY gets me. A lot of games have vibrant and active community members, WHICH IS GREAT, but why are they not PLAYING THE GAME. It is nice to have friends. I love that we're all brought together about this thing and I want to feel welcome and connected by our other interests, but it drives me super bat-shit nutzo if I see a highly active community that doesn't post. It makes new members feel like they don't have to post and that they can be considered "active" if they're online in the community. I don't like it AT ALL, so I make sure to watch for it.
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12 hours ago, MissQ said:
  • Character concepts that clearly show they haven't read anything about the site or lore. I understand when people come in and want to join in a hurry because they're just that excited, but it makes me cringe anytime I read over a concept or the history and it's painfully obvious nothing was read. Moreso when you try to explain why this and this doesn't work and the person immediately feels attacked. 

Yup, there's a few of these types going around. Never make reference to any place names, just a cookie cutter app that they think they can copy paste everywhere. I had one of them join both of my sites (fantasy and sci fi). Their apps were exactly the same on both sites ...

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