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DON'T PEE ON MY BED

Whenever I don't get to share a bed with my SO, for whatever reason, I tend to have pretty strange and wacky dreams. For the last two nights this has been the case.   I rage quit on my dream last night because in my dream, we had a guest over. There's no other way to say it- our guest was morbidly obese, but was still capable of walking herself around. She announces to everyone: "I've got to pee." So she gets up. Walks into my room. Lies down on my bed... AND PEES ON IT.   RIGHT. IN. FRONT. OF. ME.   I'm quite upset about this for obvious reasons and am like "YO. Why the fuck you peein' on my bed?" Actually, that's the nice version of what I said. I made her feel very bad, but instead of just being sad, she tried to argue back with me. ABOUT WHY IT'S OKAY TO PEE ON MY BED. It's fine to pee on my bed, she says, because it's hard for her to sit on a toilet. This made me go quiet for a second, because okay, honestly, a big part of my line of work is helping people sit on a damn toilet LOL, and then I remembered, BITCH I SAW YOU WALK IN HERE AND CLIMB ONTO MY BED which seriously in all honesty cannot be any easier than sitting on the shitter, and so instead of arguing with her further I just legit rage quit on my own dream and woke up.   OMG. I'm still worked up about it. Guys, I love sleeping literally more than anything else I'm not even kidding so PEEING ON MY BED IS JUST ABOUT THE BIGGEST SIN YOU CAN COMMIT AGAINST ME, DON'T DO IT.

Josie

Josie

 

Tentatively Optimistic

The stuff in my grandma's lungs is benign, according to the results of her PET scan. My mother says her doctor is a jerkface but my grandma was a nurse and is also a jerkface, so I imagine if she felt like he wasn't giving her the appropriate amount of care and consideration that she'd sock him in the jaw.

Josie

Josie

 

Feelings

I'm starting to feel better ever since I told my mother that I resent her LOL. I don't necessarily feel good about telling her that I resent her, but it was a lot of formless negative energy associated with her that I think I was able to let go of when I told her. I know that she did her best and my feelings for her were very juvenile. But that's the thing about emotions, did you know? They don't mature with the rest of you. If someone hurt you when you were six and you've never forgiven them, your hurt is still going to be the type of hurt a six year old has. It's a little silly, how humans do.   I'm still a little uneasy, I suppose. My grandmother has some nodules in her lungs that they're doing tests on. My grandma's very important to me. I don't want to receive any comments about this because I won't be able to handle them LOL, but I needed to say something.   I'm also a little uneasy about my internship. Found out that it's going to be in the psychiatric ward of the hospital nearby. I'm very tired right now and don't know if I have the energy to deal with that, but I felt that way about my last internship as well and it wasn't so bad. There really aren't any less-intensive alternatives either. I wonder if I might just be worried about meeting the staff there. They always want to talk with me and have me tell them about myself and fuck, I'm boring LOL.   Ah, well!

Josie

Josie

 

I love you!

I tell people I love them (as a friend) a lot and that I care about them because I think it's important to. It weirds some folks out, and that's okay. It can't hurt to tell someone that you care about them. But it can hurt for a person to go around thinking that no one cares at all.   For some people, hearing that they're cared for might be the only nice thing they hear all day.

Josie

Josie

 

How do I attract people to my site?

An anonymous user asked me:   Hello anon and thank you for the ask!   It is difficult to say that there are things you can do to attract people to your forum without advertising, but there are definitely things you can do to make guests want to stay! Have activity on your forum. No one wants to join an empty forum, one without any posts. That means if you are the only member, you need to be posting- even if it's with yourself! This also means that hiding the IC forums from guests is a very bad idea. Make it easy to join. People are impatient and want to get started as quickly as possible. You can help things move along by streamlining the joining process. Make all your documentation easy to find, have a starter guide to walk people through the joining process, have a simple application (or the option for one- some people do prefer the much longer and more detailed ones), be quick on checking applications. Be unique. Your forum needs to offer something that others do not, otherwise there's no reason for anyone to join it. Being unique doesn't mean that the entire concept has to be something incomprehensible, but if you notice that a lot of other forums in your genre do things a certain way, try to find a spin to put on it. Familiarity is good, but monotony is not. Be present. In the same vein as being active, you- the admin- need to have a presence on the site. Post in the cbox, even if you don't have anyone to talk to. Have wanted ads posted. Some people find it easier to join in to a roleplay if there are some wanted ads available for the taking. They're a good way for people to quickly get plots, character interactions, and even a bit of backstory. Reward people for signing up. If there is a monetary system on the site or any sort of items- anything exclusive that can be earned, really- it's always nice to give newbies a little something extra for joining up! BE POSITIVE. It's majorly off-putting to see negative comments in a cbox- about being bored, not having posts to do, not having muse, etc. Also on resource forums, it's a very good idea to share the FUN times you have on your forum instead of all of your frustrations. Obviously, one way makes your site seem like a nice place to be vs. an unhappy place. You want your forum to be a happy place!   None of that gets the word out about your forum, however. You do have to do some form of advertising in order to get people to stop by the site. There are a multitude of ways in which you can do this: Tell your friends. All of them. Even the ones who aren't interested. They might come across someone who is interested in what you can offer and send them your way. Be sociable. Make new friends, even people who aren't interested in joining your forum. It never hurts to meet new people, and the same logic above applies here. Even if they aren't interested in your forum, your new buddies might meet someone who is and can send them your way. Put your site in your signature on every site you're on that allows it. Resource sites like The Initiative are a great way to passively advertise your forum simply by posting and being active there. They can give users an idea of who you are as an admin and a player, and people who like the things you say might stop by and take a peek at your forum. Get listed everywhere you can. This includes directories, but also top sites. These are another wonderful way to passively advertise for your site, requiring you to only click a button occasionally (in the case of top sites).  Advertise on tumblr directories. Many of them let you post without having a tumblr account and they function very similarly to directories. Get affiliated. Find other sites to affiliate with. I personally like to affiliate with like-minded sites or sites within the same/similar genres, as well as panfandom forums (if I'm running a fandom site). As I no longer have applications on my forums, I will also affiliate with any other site that does not have applications even if they aren't of the same genre as my site, for example. However, there are other methods of affiliating which might suit you better, such as affiliating with any and every site you can. If those sites die, then your button is stuck on their index forever and ever. Affiliates are another form of passive advertising. Advertise on other social media. Even just one post makes a difference, but having a promotional tumblr, deviantart (if your forum uses artwork or you have artists making art for the forum), Twitter, or even Facebook page for you RP is a good way to get the word out there in a way that's less of a grind than advertising on other forums. You can share links to plotters, open threads, character quotes, wanted ads, and teasers for plots to come on social media. This requires more upkeep than directories and top sites, however as most of these methods allow you to queue items you can easily set up posts in advance and just space them out over the course of a week, month, etc. Advertise smarter, not harder. When you do advertise on other forums, don't bother dropping an ad if it takes you more than 5 seconds to find the advertisement forum. If it's difficult for you to find, then it's difficult for people to crawl through sites to find also. When I'm advertising, I use ctrl+f and do a search for 'adv' or 'plug'- if neither of those things come up, I bail. Advertise on sites that have won awards or are currently being promoted on resource sites or that are at the top of top site lists, as those sites are in theory the ones which are getting the most traffic (and therefore increase the chances of your ad getting seen). Dropping large amounts of ads can be effective, but it helps to even post just 5 ads a day. You can do this easily by posting 5 ads on a site one day, and then doing links backs on the next day.   Lastly, installing Google Analytics on your forum is not a bad idea either. It will track where you get your traffic from, and once you know where you get the greatest amount of traffic from you will know where to focus the most of your efforts.   Hope this helps, anon! - GR   If you would like to ask me for advice, you can comment on an article or send me a private message! Be sure to include if you would like to remain anonymous.

Josie

Josie

 

On Moral Relativism

Moral (or ethical) relativism is a branch of philosophy with a few different schools of thought, but in the end it more or less boils down to different cultures having ideas of what is right and wrong and that no point of view is wholly correct because no point of view encompasses all truths. This is how I view life. I believe that every group has ideas on what is right and wrong, and that, generally speaking, most groups do what they believe is right. However, to others, that might seem like the wrong thing.   I did not always think this way. In fact, I used to very much be one of the "it's my way or the high way" sorts of people. I still am, in some ways. I'm very opinionated, and if I'm making something I'm going to make it the way I think is most right. But it's shaped the way I approach other people and interact with them, and I feel that interacting with others with the thought in mind that they are doing what they think is best (even if I don't agree with their concept of what's best) has been a help to me rather than a hindrance. In my line of study (medical care), it's almost a mandatory way of thinking (but that's a topic for another day), though I developed my own opinion on this before it was encouraged by school.   There are a number of people who are outraged by the idea of moral relativism, and I had an encounter with some of them yesterday. I admit that I struggle still to see exactly where there issue was in the context of the problem we were discussing, so I cannot share with you what the exact nature of their issue was, but in general they seemed upset that I did not support one warring party in a fictional war and tossed the term moral relativism at me in a manner which I presume they thought would be insulting. I was not insulted, but this was the first time I had encountered such a strong reaction to such a scenario and it got me thinking.   The idea of moral relativism doesn't claim that everything a culture does is perceived as correct within that culture. Women not having the right to vote is/was an example of this: though it is/was the norm within cultures, there were/are a number of people who did/do not perceive this as right or fair. Change was brought about as a result. It also appears to be the case that, as a society develops, it gears itself more and more towards the fair treatment of the people within that culture. This is not the case everywhere and as a species we do indeed have a long way left to go, but another thing that I feel people misunderstand is that change is not instantaneous and is never easy. It is an ongoing and infinite process, and as such takes time.   Moral relativism also does not claim that the indigenous thought or reasoning behind a certain policy within a culture was correct to begin with, because the very point of the idea is that nothing is.   Moral relativism doesn't forbid that groups or individuals have their own ideas on what is right and wrong. It does not require that everyone thinks the same way, only the recognition and acceptance that what is right for you might not be right for someone else, and vice versa.   It does not advocate interfering with a group that you do not agree with, certainly not by aggressive means, but it also does not say that you shouldn't defend yourself from aggressors. It doesn't say that you have to put yourself second for "the greater good" or in the name of tolerance.   It's a fascinating idea because at its very core I interpret it as meaning you do you and do it freely, but beware the consequences of your actions. It's not promoting lawlessness at all. It's a reminder of the world as it is: all our actions do have consequences because not everyone agrees with us and thinks the exact same way we do. But it's also an idea for what the world could be: empathetic to one another and accepting of our differences.   Empathy is key in the positive development of society, and part of empathy is being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes, to understand why they experience things the way they do and understand their situation. I do feel that thinking that no one else has shoes worth putting on aside from you is incredibly ignorant. Without empathy we get groups of people who believe that they are wholly right and that everyone else is wrong, and I do, personally, find that alarming (not to mention obnoxious). A group that believes they are the only correct one feels justified to do anything at all without regard for how it will impact others, and we are aware of the results of that kind of thinking.   And that's my thought barf for today.

Josie

Josie

 

On the matter of the urge to run more than one site...

An anonymous user asked me:   Boy, do I ever empathize with this situation! And unfortunately, I don't have a simple response.   Firstly, I would like to say that you should always do what's best for you. In the event that you are inspired over something new but are lacking inspiration for your current site, go with the new thing. Don't feel like you have to hang around and play with what already feels dead to you just because you feel obligated to entertain others. Roleplaying is about having fun, and if the admin of a site isn't having fun then no one is going to. Ergo, do what's fun for you.   Second, be realistic and honest with yourself. Answer the following questions: Do I have the time to spend on both building a new site and keeping my current one active? Do I want to spend the time on building a new site? How would I split my time between two (or more) sites? Do I have the energy to achieve this? How will my working on another site impact my current community? How will it impact me? How will these impacts make me feel? Why do I want to create another site? What is it that interests me about it? What would this new site give me that my current site cannot? Is there a way my new idea can be incorporated into my existing site to satisfy the interests that aren't being met? Does this idea exist on any other site? If so, why do I not want to partake in it on that site? Am I okay with my current site potentially suffering while I create a new one?   Depending on your answers to those questions, you might have just talked yourself into or out of starting another site. If you talked yourself out of it, then continue about your business as usual.   If your answers still point you towards wanting to start another site, then I would advise you to wait. Is this still something you are going to want to do in a week? A month? Sometimes we get these fleeting desires that pass just as quickly. If inspiration survives through your waiting period, then it will probably last the construction process of the site and the time spent on your waiting period won't detract much from how long it takes to actually build the site.   In the event your inspiration lasts, then I suggest coming up with a plan of action and sticking to it. Pick what days you're going to spend working on the new site and do it. If you're equally committed to your current site, then you need to make time to spend there as well.   As to how your members will feel about it and not wanting them to feel as though you're abandoning them, it's important to remember this: you can't change how your members feel. It is entirely out of your control. Some of them might be upset just for knowing that you even thought about opening up another site. Others might not care at all. Don't get hung up on how they feel. The only thing you can control are your own actions, so if what you want is for your members to feel as though you will still be there for them, the best thing to do is to offer to include them, and to show them that you aren't going to abandon them. The best way to do that is by sticking to your schedule.   Thanks for coming to me Anon, and hope this helps! - GR   If you would like to ask me for advice, you can comment on an article or send me a private message! Be sure to include if you would like to remain anonymous.

Josie

Josie

 

February Update 2

Hey again everyone!   We have been working hard to improve the look and feel around the site as well as adding helpful new awesome features. One of those new features is Two Factor Authentication. This is currently enabled to help protect your account from being hijacked if it is ever hacked. If you have suggestions for more questions that we can add (if you choose to do security questions over Google Authenticator) than don't hesitate to post in that thread and give us some ideas!   Next up! We have updated how blogs appear on their main page. We now have the most recent article fully shown with the other articles truncated below. It came with a Grid layout and a traditional layout. We also increased the height of the cover image to better showcase an image of your choosing!   All around we have made some aesthetic changes to many things around the site (like the embeds that were difficult to read). We hope you enjoy them!   Another cool feature that we added is we now have discord integration! So if you're in discord either on your computer or on your phone you will now get notified when new topics are posted around the forums. Currently it is set up to primarily post from the "Wanted, Roleplay" section and the "Roleplay Conversations" sections. In the future this may change. Please feel free to provide feedback in the Staff Contact forum to let us know if you think we should add more or remove any so we know what you like.   Now! Onto Challenges! The Best of 2016 has been posted! We would like to thank everyone who nominated and to remind everyone to look out for these same things as we will be repeating it next year and probably with more categories! You are free to contact us and let us know of categories you think we should add! Go check out the winners here: Following that! We are looking for award ideas! Funny, nerdy, bizarre whatever! We want to make awards fun to both have and earn. If you have an idea for an award for something around the Initiative than please let us know what it is and how you think it should be earned! We would love more fun and creative ways to engage you!   Moving on from awards! Our Spotlight Challenge is nearly at it's end! Don't miss your opportunity to get your site listed in the header of the Initiative for an entire month! Check it out and send us some stories about Valentine's day! Remember they don't have to be about love!   Voting for Graphics Challenge 9 is up! Go vote for your favorite one here: We have also posted a new graphics challenge! It's super easy and fun! Go make some avatars of some animals! Think you have what it takes to write a graphic inspired challenge!? Go check out this writing challenge: Last but certainly not least! Don't forget about @Gothams Reckoning advice blog. Just send them a PM with your question that you would like advice on and they will post it in the blog and give you advice. You can be completely anonymous just advise GR when you send your PM.   We just want to add that we can't have this awesome community without you! So we thank you for being awesome members and being supportive to one another! You all rock!   The Initiative Staff

Morrigan

Morrigan

 

February Update

Hey everyone! This month we are wrapping up the nominations from 2016! We will be getting awards out as soon as we go through the nominations and get everything picked out!   We have quite a few new guides in our guide section. We recommend going to check them out: https://rpginitiative.com/guides/   We have new graphics and writing challenges posted in their respective challenge forums.   We have also posted this months' Spotlight Challenge. Valentine's emotions! Tell a story about a Valentine's day, good or bad.   We want to remind you about our lovely @Gothams Reckoning blog! You can request directed advice from a longstanding administrator of the roleplaying community. You can find it here:     Have a Happy February! The Initiative Staff!

Morrigan

Morrigan

 

Feeling cheated

Sometimes I am feeling cheated of character development. Cheated in my writing, in the story we are writing together, not receiving the same thing I am offering, but only a tenth part. I have said before that Nothing happens if you don't write. Everybody knows it is true, still they don't write even if they all declare they love their characters and they want the plots they have suggested and we have planned for months, waiting for their free time to actually write the story.   In some cases, this leads to "this has happened" decisions between writers, without showing how in a thread, but just mentioning it in passing in another thread. I this case, if I feel cheated of the character development, usually  there are remedies for this: some characters have journals and tell their version of the story, with their thoughts and feelings about it. Some characters, for whom it isn't in character to keep a journal, might write a letter to somebody dear and confess there if it is a thing which can be confessed, or can open up to a friend in a certain circumstance. I guess one of these three solutions can be applied unilaterally in most cases, so that at least my characters gain the character development they have been cheated of.    In some cases, after waiting longer than anybody else would have had patience for, the thread starts and continues (from their side) with one post a century, written quickly, as if wanting to get rid of it instead of developing their characters and making them enjoy the story. I receive something emotionless, without letting their charachters develop through the plot, making them less than wallflowers. What satisfaction would they gain from this kind of writing, I can't understand.    I do write my characters normally through the threads, giving them time to feel, to think, to watch, to react and to make the story happen, to take in through all the senses what happens. But by their lack of proper reactions, of a real contribution to a story they wanted/ asked for, I still feel cheated of my character development. They get even less than mine, too, but by their choice, because there would have been a lot to react to and vibrate to in my posts. And sometimes I don't know what to do to fix the story, at least on my side.   I feel cheated, I feel that writing in partnership doesn't attain that partnership feeling, that I am giving everything and I receive just crumpets in exchange, that I am doing all the work and the others are sabotaging their own character development, and mine as collateral damage. That the story isn't anymore how it should have been, because it lacks... enthusiasm? Feeling? Life? And that if I wrote it alone from both characters' perspective, it would have been more pleasant to read, more developed and immersing the readers into the proper athmosphere of the setting.

Elena

Elena

 

Longing for a real community

This was posted more in depth on my personal blog, where I can insert the photos how I want them to look (what here I can't manage. Probably it is possible, but I am too anti-technicus to figure out how. Last time I tried I got my whole gallery linked to a blog post.)   Longing for a real community   The struggle is real, and I am more and more convinced that what I am actually longing for does not exist.    I wish for a dedicated community of writers – as many or as few as they happen to be. The activity, the involvement (including the community feeling) and the number of characters actively written when they are needed, instead of being left to pickle somewhere in silence, are more important than the number of members.   I wish the members to be involved in the story they are writing together. To be willing to write THE STORY, seeing the whole picture, beyond a character or two. To share characters freely (be they NPCs or other shared custody characters) and to discuss in groups plots and twists, planning the next stories, agreeing on outcomes by meeting half-way after listening to the reasons why a thing should happen or not and how. To discuss literary resources and aspects of the writing craft, to actively exchange experience. Maybe also to read books or watch movies in the same field like the story and to discuss them together, including from the perspective of enriching our story.   A writing community should have been like NaNoWriMo all the time – in respect to the community atmosphere, not in number of words/ competition, neither in number of members. In the smaller sense of a community group of writers, who actually talk about their characters, plots, support each other. And I know RPGs which are a community too, smaller or bigger.    But when I joined one, hoping to learn there how to improve the community feeling on MY site, I haven't succeeded yet to learn this secret. Yes, this one is a community but not exactly (or not yet) the one I am longing for, and, despite the achievements I have been getting there, not sure how to capture and replant its spirit into something I wish for, on my site.

Elena

Elena

 

About NaNoWriMo

Posting here what I have posted in English, at their time, on my personal blog, on this subject. The other times I did the opposite - first wrote here, then transcribed it my blog.   NaNoWriMo starts tomorrow   NaNoWriMo conclusions   The fantastic five NaNoWriMo winners

Elena

Elena

 

How can I make my site successful?

I had an anonymous user on Necessary Evil ask the following:   What you can do to make your site a success is a tough thing to give advice on since everyone has different ideas of what a 'success' is. So for starters, my advice would be for you to decide what success means to you. Is it a site with lots of members? Is it a site with people who are posting every day? Is it a site where people fearlessly start and join open threads? Once you've pinpointed what it means to you to be successful, then you can start considering methods of making that happen. The best way to achieve your wishes is by being an example of what you want to see, and finding a way to emphasize what you want on your forum. If you want lots of open threads, then make it easy for people to advertise that they have open threads. If you want a forum with more members than you can count, then create some incentive for recruiting people.   With that being said, the rest of my advice would be the following: Make your site easy to identify. Don't leave people guessing what it's about- pick images that scream it, have the words right there. Make your site memorable. You don't want to look and be exactly like every other site in your genre, because then there's no real reason why someone should join your site. Offer something people can't get anywhere else. Make your site accessible. Easy to read, easy to navigate, easy to use.   So specifically for a superhero and villains forum: I'd put superheroes and villains on it. A lot of sites in that genre tend to feel pretty compact, cluttered, and image-heavy to me, so maybe try something a little different: clean and simple graphics instead of manips with a whole bunch of faces on them, more solid colors, something spacious.    Good luck, anon!     If you would like to ask me for advice, you can comment on an article or send me a private message! Be sure to include if you would like to remain anonymous.

Josie

Josie

 

Happy New Year

Hey everyone! So loads of missed updates. I apologize. The world mostly ate me over the past few months so I apologize for the lack of them. I'm trying to work on making sure they are more consistent for everyone. Trying for every two weeks.   So first things first! Welcome, again, to @Gothams Reckoning for joining the The Initiative staff! You are amazing and your guides are great we are really happy to have you.   We have lots of things going on including January Nominations for the Best of 2016! This is this months Spotlight is a lottery of sorts. By participating in the nominations you earn yourself another chance to earn your site into the spotlight! Read about it here: Nothing else big for this update! Don't forget about the graphics and writing challenges! Participating will now start to earn you new cool awards so get in on it now.   The Initiative Staff

Morrigan

Morrigan

 

Someone's taken my wanted ad, and I don't want them to...

It sounds like you're a staffer, and if that's the case then I would encourage you to have the member speak with this person! In my opinion, this is not a task which the staff should have to handle, but then again I place strong emphasis on members being able to stand up for themselves and communicate their wants and needs. If you decide to get involved as a staffer, then in order to perpetuate fairness you will have to oversee any characters that have been created from a wanted ad. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but it depends on how much work you want to put on yourself vs. your members.   But moving on!   Your member should keep this in mind: whether or not they confront this player, there is nothing that forces them to roleplay with this character. There is nothing forcing them to say that their wanted ad has been fulfilled if they don't feel that it has been.   If they want to talk to this player, then there are a few different ways they can approach the situation. Either tell that player the above- that even if the character gets accepted, they will not consider the wanted ad filled and do not want to write that plot with that character; or, be honest and open with the other player and tell them simply that they're not interested in them taking their wanted ad. I recommend the latter over the former, although it should be followed up with the former if the person in question does not relent.   If you decide that staff intervention is necessary, then how you solve the issue is up to you. Some variation of the above can be included in the message you send them, but whether you pend the application or reject it depends on how you want to handle things on your forum.   If the posting claims before the application is accepted is a problem (an issue which I would consider separate from the matter of taking a wanted ad without discussing it with the person who posted the ad first), then I think a simple reminder to the member would be sufficient.   Good luck, Anon!     If you would like to ask me for advice, you can comment on an article or send me a private message! Be sure to include if you would like to remain anonymous.

Josie

Josie

 

Concern over playing a controversial character- what to do

An anonymous individual came to me with the concern about playing a character that could be the source of some controversy. The character in question is from a series which takes an alternate- and obviously fictional- look at real events and people. There is a big difference between the real version of this character and their fictional portrayal, which is where the controversy arises from, as some of these differences may be seen as insensitive. This character has little in common with the real person other than the name, and if the name was changed to something else then there would be minimal issue with playing the character.   So what do you do?   Most importantly, remember this: any character you play has the potential to offend someone. There is absolutely no kind of character you can write that will not offend anyone. Even a character without conflict or problems is likely to offend someone because they aren't contributing anything to the story.   Now, there are two reasons why a person could get offended by your character: 1) you are not representing where that character comes from accurately or with grace, or 2) they are incapable of handling their own emotions.   Know that the most important part of playing any character is making sure that you are representing their nationality, race, religion, sexuality- and every other part of them- with respect and empathy. Do what research you need to, read articles, be informed. If someone approaches you and says that something about your character is incorrect, be open to constructive criticism (but as with all things, take it with a grain of salt). That person may know more than you on the subject, and can help you in accurately portraying the different cultural/etc. facets of your character. So long as you do this, then you have reason 1 covered.   However, that means that no matter how much work you put into presenting your character with care, they might still offend someone. In that case, that falls under reason 2. At that point, I wouldn't worry about it. You are not responsible for how another person reacts to the way that they feel. That doesn't mean that it still can't be uncomfortable to deal with, however.   This leaves you with a question to answer! Is your desire to play the character greater than your apprehension over possibly offending someone, and the effort you will have to go through to deal with any offended individuals? If the answer is yes- then take up the character! If the answer is no- then don't!   Good luck, Anon!       If you would like to ask me for advice, you can comment on an article or send me a private message! Be sure to include if you would like to remain anonymous.

Josie

Josie

 

Fandoms!

I was reading the script for Harry Potter and the Cursed Child and Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them and this made me think about the various fandoms I like. My main ones are Tolkien and Star Wars (before the Disney take-over - I didn't like Force Awakens and probably won't care for the stories that spring off that, but I'm reserving judgement for Rogue One and the various stand alone spin-offs.) Reading those then got me re-visiting Jim Butcher's Dresden Files, and this made me think which, out of all the books, films and TV shows I like, which are the ones which stand out and blow the rest out of the water, so to speak? These are the ones which we are most likely to be inspired to write fan fiction for and create rp games and boards, the ones which seem to get us through times that are tough.   Books   Lord of the Rings/The Hobbit Dresden Files Women of the Otherworld (includes the adult and YA books) Temeraire Mercy Thompson/Alpha and Omega Harry Potter Kitty Norville Shannara   TV Shows   Star Trek: The Next Generation Star Trek: Deep Space Nine Star Trek: Voyager Stargate-SG1 Buffy the Vampire Slayer/Angel   Films   Star Wars Indiana Jones   I wouldn't make an rp site for these books, but they do deserve an honorary mention because they are things I go back to time and again: Watership Down, James Herriot, and One Hundred and One Dalmatians.

Icewolf

Icewolf

 

I am lazy

Yes, I am lazy. Or, rather, tired, both physically and mentally. I am 48 and sometimes I feel 100.   I wish I was feeling and thinking differently, but not anymore. My mother was shocked when I told her that I have another priority from now on than my carreer. She had taught me to hold my carreer the highest, and I have done it. I got a PhD and I honoured it through having well thought projects, through teaching others and writing a book and various teaching materials and contributions. But a carreer is a living thing. It grows, it expands, it gives a certain fame within specific circles, then it gets old. The times are not good anymore for its development, and it starts diminishing. People get other interests, more fullfilling personally, to focus on, and job ceases being a "carreer" and starts being the place you earn money from.    I have worked already for 30 years, and my patience is weaning. Project management is a demanding, high responsibility job. If God and the laws in force want me to retire early, I will do it. If God doesn't want it for me, the law won't be favourable in this direction. Call it laziness, if you want, but I think it might not be exactly this. Just realism and tiredness.   It would be good because I'd end with some stress in my life, not only the work-related part (deadlines, people who don't do what they were supposed to , how they were supposed to) but also, e.g, the yearly physical evaluation and the need to get permissions for visits to doctors who don't have a schedule in the evenings. Itbli would be good because I'll have more time to dedicate to writing, and hopefully I might publish more books. It would be good because I can dedicate more time to caring for my mother and I'd feel less guilty in this field. I will stop worrying what I am going to do with her if in a few months she wouldn't be able to live alone anymore and I'll have to move with her as main caregiver.   At the same time, I am scared of the early retirement (which now seems the most likely thing to happen in the upcoming months). Some people have called it "the waiting room for death". I was told that retired people aren't taken into consideration anymore by those who are still working. I am scared of the paperwork entailing the early retirement, and of the high austerity months I'll have to spend waiting for the decision and the first pensions to come.   But I'll go on without looking back, because I am too tired after 30 years of full time work.

Elena

Elena

 

Involve your members

Don't write alone, they say. Involve your members, because RPG means interaction.

Well, it means interaction between characters, and this could be achieved even if they are written by only one writer.
 
What if the members CAN get involved, but they don't want to? I would have liked to involve them in all threads, to have characters of all kind (not only NPCs) shared, or at least to have discussions among writers even if I have to write some threads alone. They seem to simply not be interested. 

In this case, isn't better to write the story alone, than have the chapter missing from the whole story, and "left to anyone's imagination"? Don't we write to let out the story prisoner in our minds, and have it read by our readers, as few as they might be in certain cases?

I am still pondering, in one case, if to write a thread wholly alone or to wait for the potential involvement of two other writing partners. Yes, they can be involved and I'd love them to. I think their contribution would add to the story and it could be also good character development for their own characters, if they care to develop them. This is the main issue - if they care to develop them, if they care to get involved. Because one hadn't written in his ongoing threads for 3 weeks, and I don't know when he'll write again, if he will be available for another thread and if, assuming he'd join, he'd do this thread the same thing (making me wait 3-4 weeks or more for one post). And most of the above could apply for the other too. People who post at 3-4 weeks, and in 3 weeks I can finish the whole thread alone.

Decisions, decisions. I have stopped, though, with an opened thread, waiting for them to see if they want to get involved. If not, I can get ambitious and finish the thread alone in one week-end, some day.
 

Elena

Elena

 

Updates 9-6-16

Sorry for the lack of updates recently. It's been a trying time of PC issues for me! However lots to update on this week!!   First and foremost, congratulations to @Blackjack Bart for winning GC5! The new challenge will be posted this weekend.   Next up! We have cleaned up our hosted accounts before we started to manage them here on IPS' software. Anyone that has our hosting it is now properly associated to your user account. You can now personally cancel or begin to donate using the Manage purchases: https://rpginitiative.com/clients/purchases/   Next up! We are going to be hosting another round of CAH: Let us know if you are joining us and make sure that you are in discord!   Next we are looking to know if you want to be able to edit the HTML of your posts around the site. Details are explained here: Additionally we want to know what your opinion of our navigation menu is. Give us your feedback here: Last, but not least, be sure to join into our Writing challenge! All you have to do is what you do already! Post on your sites! Thanks for listening and we hope you are having fun roleplaying!!

Morrigan

Morrigan

 

Nervous Breakdown

Alright, so I think I took on too much and I’m starting to feel the effects of it. I’m unfocused, I have a constant ringing headache. I want to finish things but when I start looking at it I start to feel a little panicky, which honestly, isn’t anything like … Continue reading
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Morrigan

Morrigan

 

Updates for 6/27/16

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    • Arceus,   I have followed your work for many years and yet I hardly know you at all. But I can relate, I know your pain, I've been there. I was spending a car payment every year on hosting, and my service did not allow for monthly payments. The reality of my debt, finances, and whether or not this money was making me happy put my hosting down to die after year 2 or 3.    One of the problems that I made early on was that I was too helpful. I tried to help people who didn't want help. They always resented me for it, it always ended badly, I was always butt hurt, and it was always a massive waste of time and energy. It took me years to learn the art of sitting on the sidelines, like everyone else, and watching the firework explosions from afar, instead of trying to wrestle the matches away from the person lighting them. I wonder if you tried to help people who didn't ask for help? If they treated you that way, certainly they weren't ready for your help, they just had good intentions and half-baked notions. There are many people who are very insistent and adamant that they do want help, but they don't want help, they want their very specific notion and experience and all of that isn't actually help and it isn't the help that they need. I know that this wound hurts. But give this a try, and I think that you will find yourself less abused. Remember that if you help someone who doesn't want help, all you get out of it is wasted time and energy and hurt, and all the person gets is a prideful and mean story about someone else, because they aren't capable of receiving that help.    There is a lot to be said about paid services and the wisdom there. I asked for $10 once for an eternity of hosting and support, and many sites could not get that much; they were not serious. $10 is what someone would pay a month for ad-free on JCInk or Proboards. Because I asked for real money, people treated me better and more respectfully, they believed me more that I knew what I was doing.  Far less people wasted my time. And the people who wasted the most of my time never paid.    One of the reasons that I stopped hosting was because I found, like you did, that I wasn't really friends with anyone. I just had people who popped in every 5 years to ask me to help them with coding this or that. I suck at keeping up with friends, so half of that blame is mine, but the other half... When I would tell someone that I just don't have time to fix their coding issue, they would insist or just quietly not be my friend anymore. So now, I rub it in their faces with the truth. "I'm sorry FriendXYZ, I know that it sounds like a simple issue to you but it's looking like it's going to be 8 to 15 hours of hard work for me to track down and I think you could find someone who could do it faster for you at a roleplay resource site. I'm working two jobs, one below minimum wage, and I'm having a hard time." And then they don't bother me anymore, and all of it is true. It's a bit overly passive-aggressive, but aggressively standing up for myself was the other side of the pendulum that I had lacked all that time, and it helped immensely, and I have found my balance between both sides of the pendulum.    There are some directory/resource sites where people come in to request help with their problems and it always amazes me at the minimum effort put in. That most issues are a few badly formed sentences that don't include what's needed to debug them. I used to get snippy at the staffers who moderated them at their inane requirements for a form always a form omfg why?! But now I understand that their real requirement was effort and to desperately and quickly weed out the wasters of time and energy as easily as possible. I have some skins and other things that I made for resource sites and people are over-entitled, not just to me, but to everyone. Providing ongoing support for those resources is utterly exhausting and about half of the time you ever spend on something goes into supporting it over all the long time its used.    I am tired, Arceus. But I am not as tired as I was before because I put up my boundary lines and maintain them because I know they are my sanity, and because I know if I let them slip, someone is going to take advantage of me because that's why they needed to cross those boundary lines in the first place.    Someday you will come to feel better about things, about yourself, about roleplays. But for right now, rest, find peace and serenity. Don't go back to hosting because right now it's unhealthy for you.  I found that part of my desire to be a piggy-back host was to find my value as a person by being useful to others, because I felt I had no value otherwise, and many treated me just as I felt about myself. If you feel this way, don't be afraid to talk to a therapist, because life is short and they are the fastest, least painful, and most efficient way towards healing and being happy.    I hope this helps you in some small way. Here is my discord if you'd like to talk sometime
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    • That's a very good point. RPers treat other people like too many people treat retail workers. I try and blot that particular job from my memory.   I mean if you just want to do the RP equivalent of quietly shooting the breeze with a bud, I think my site's gold for that lol! But I truly appreciate wanting something more structured than a multigenre!   I'm on a 'surrealist panfandom' site that's decent, and Morr's site. That's all I've got!
    • Idk man, after working retail for a few years, I can believe it. xD   Thanks! If you got any suggestions toss em, I'm looking at practically anything atm. Friend endorsements definitely get bonus points c; Being kinda quiet on the ones I do join, but I'll... waddle my way out of the depression tunnel eventually. lol
    • I love you too! You're a fantastic person 🙂   It is saddening to see how people treat each other publicly in the forum rp community. I struggle to believe that they behave that way in meatspace!    Good luck with your RP search though! I hope you find some excellent places 💖🙂
    • ♥ Still love you and I miss your face. And it really is. It's saddening. :c
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